
Eating Disorders Support Group
Eating disorders are marked by an obsessive need to control the intake and/or purging of food. This community is dedicated to those struggling on the road to recovery. Join to discuss your experience with others and find support. Get advice, ask questions, and meet others who are going through similar struggles.

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My wife has been having bulimia/anorexia problems on and off for years. This is the first I've heard about it since we were married 6 years ago. After giving birth to 2 children in 2 years, she put on weight. This combined with a low thyroid problem sent her over the edge. She now tells me she's back at it and has been for months. She will tell me she's "going to go throw up" and waits to see what I might say. I will say "don't" or something else stupid but I really have no idea how to deal with this. I've talked to my doctor, her doctor and a help line all of which have told me she will need to walk in under her own steam to get help. She will not do this so I'm asking if anyone has any suggestions. Even just comforting words I can tell her that won't give her the wrong idea. The help line siad just be there for her. I have been but no matter whaty I say or do it's wrong. I don't want to make her situation any worse just better. Right now I'm keeping as quiet as possible because I don't want to say the wrong things anymore.
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All i can say is be there for her. Try to get her to talk without being confrontational. Leave the helpline number out. Buy her a book. You obviously care very much about her to come on here. She is lucky to have you.
Good Luck.
I wish I knew what else to tell you that would make it better. You sound like a wonderfully supportive partner. Good luck to you both!
The trouble is, this is a really emotional problem, about control, so even i've given suggestions of "the right thing to say" for my best friend, and at the wrong time, it was absolutely the wrong thing, and it made me hurt and mad... Ask her, when she says she is going to purge, how you can help her NOT. what you could do to help her keep her food.
that might show her you're really on HER side (as opposed to the ED side that she sometimes feels like is HER side)