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they just don"t get it!!!

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deleted_user
my keyboard is still messed up from a tea spillage so please forgive any typing errors>
a couple of months ago i posted a question about how to tell my husband about my ed> i got some great responses and was able to tell him> he has been very supportive>
but now i have lost more weight and i think it is finally hitting home that i have a problem> it think me telling him was one thing but now that he can physically see changes he is getting worried> i have tried telling him that my mind set isn"t any different than it was back when i first told him> but he doesn"t get it>
there are many bulimics out there that are average weight that are most likely sicker and less healthy than i am but no one sees this> it"s like ed is invisible unless you can see the problem with you own eyes>
i am a bulimic anorexic so i think this is so frustrating>
thanks for letting me rant>hugs
sorry if this double posted>
Slimpics
Slimpics
Yep, I soooo understand what you're trying to say (in spite of the tea spillage affecting your typing and all!)

I am still considered underweight, but I appear alot "healthier" than I did 25 lbs ago. But let me be the first to say that I am psychologically waaaay worse off today! Even the bloody healthcare "professionals" seem to only gauge sickness in terms of an emaciated appearance. This is so frustrating.
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I agree with this appearance thing. A person can lose 40 pounds in say 5 weeks but started off at say 160, this is still anorexia, it's still deadly yet hospital doctors don't see the problem. Its the stigma, it's everywhere. You only have a real problem if you look a cretin way. It just shows how sick this disorder is, not only in the minds who have but in those who don't. Apparently there is an epidemic in the UK girls can;t get help unless they are at a cretin B.M.I. That makes me furious.
I have this issue with my boyfriend and my father, when I look like I am from a third world country ,they take notice but when I am at my weight , they act as if I am cured. Stigma is an awful thing
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deleted_user
People dont believe you have a problem if your weight is considered normal, i am of normal weight but bulimic, and getting much worse my husband is supportive but dont think he really believed it til he heard me purging.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Totally understand, ppl just dont get it. They think that if you are 'normal' weight then you are fine. But i think im more messed up now that im binging. But then again, how can we expect ppl to understand? The way we think is so messed up it would be impossible to imagine, i reckon.
deleted_user
deleted_user
That's a tough one. I told my husband about my problem when he saw my weight hitting a dangerous bottom and I wasn't eating. He wanted me to explain, but I couldn't. I didn't know myself the reasons I was doing this crazy behavior. Our loved ones can't understand it because we can't explain it. We had to do therapy with a specialist in order for him to understand and how to help me. Good luck. XO
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