
Eating Disorders Support Group
Eating disorders are marked by an obsessive need to control the intake and/or purging of food. This community is dedicated to those struggling on the road to recovery. Join to discuss your experience with others and find support. Get advice, ask questions, and meet others who are going through similar struggles.

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A week ago since reaching a healthy weight, I stopped my meal plan and went back to eating intuitively to maintain. I guessed - I had to - about 1,800 calories a day [I'm 16 and only 5'2"]. Today I weighed in, and voila - I maintained! I am perfectly happy with my weight and I am exactly where I was before all of this, and I plan to keep maintaining and maintaining only.
Problem is, my therapist doesn't believe I'm doing it because I'm happy with where I am. She's convinced it's ED and is getting my mom on my case even more. In reality, it's not ED. I love my body now and I don't want to go back, ever. I eat without guilt and I plan on staying healthy... and I told them that, but they don't seem to believe in me. It's really discouraging...
any advice or anything?
Problem is, my therapist doesn't believe I'm doing it because I'm happy with where I am. She's convinced it's ED and is getting my mom on my case even more. In reality, it's not ED. I love my body now and I don't want to go back, ever. I eat without guilt and I plan on staying healthy... and I told them that, but they don't seem to believe in me. It's really discouraging...
any advice or anything?
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From your therapist's perspective - she's going to want to keep you in a place - on a plan - so she can keep working with emotions as they come up. Having you on a meal plan means she has knowledge that you're eating approved nutrition choices. It means that therapy gets to focus on YOU rather than you using food as subterfuge, because often we hide how we're feeling in how we treat food.
Now, you feel fine. You're not doing it for EDed reasons. And that's cool. But I don't really blame her for wanting to have you stick with a program.
Congratulations on feeling the way you do! Keep it up. All you can do is show them that their fears are unfounded.