I just dont understand why you are getting so upset over the discussion I wrote, I was just voiceing my opinion and I wasnt being rude or mean to anyone! Is there anything wrong with that? Clearly, by the pounding heart and shaking hands you are upset and I dont understand why? Its like your turning my post into something negative when it wasnt and I was just voicing my frustration on the BMI thing. Your taking it out of context and I am wondering why. It wasnt meant to be taken overboard and I feel that is what your doing! Im not arguing with you and Im not being mean too you so why?

I didn't say you were being mean to me, or arguing with me, but the tone of the discussion you posted was that anything asked which might upset the anorexics or bulemics who are part of the community shouldn't be allowed. If that's not what you meant then I'm sorry, but I think you were quite sharp with your reply to some of the answers to your post. My point is, we should all feel safe to post a topic and reply to any topic without being on the receiving end of animosity. BMI as a dicussion post really isn't that ourageous, neither did it appear lots of times, yet you came across as being really upset about it being raised.
I'm not trying to cause an argument, far from it, I'm saying that ana/mia posters dominate the discussion posts and as such is it fair to offer the ED community as a blanket support for all eating disorders? Maybe the best way forward is to seperate those who need to lose weight from those who need to gain it. If I were an overeater I wouldn't find much here to give me advice.
Really, I come in peace! I hate concfontation, but I wanted to find out whether there was a need for seperate communities.

Im not willing to discuss this anymore

i think some people need to grow up .

sera i dont see anything wrong with what you wrote u have a right to voice ur opinion.

This sounds crazy. I just added a response to the BMI post and I feel safe in expressing my opinion. We are here to heal together. If we can not be safe in sharing we are not helping one another. Does it really matter what form our ED takes ? We are all suffering from an obessive /compulsive disorder that will damage or kill us if we do not get the appropriate help, which includes being open and honest with others who have walked in our shoes.
Binge, purge, restrict, spit, laxatives, whatever WE ALL HAVE THE SAME DISEASE.
I kinda feel like we are compareing which drug addict is worse off the alcoholic or the cocaine addict.
Bottom line... I love you all and I need your help.

If I start getting upset by this community, I just take a break. I know what you mean though...it's infuriating.

Hang on everyone! It's not about what anyone specifically wrote about anything!
I have never said no one has a right to their opinion, quite the oposite. I am saing that we need to show each other respect. This is all about LETTING eachother express our opinions, but in a way which isn't hurtful.
Lauriel, I'm not sure what you mean by some people need to grow up. I have been very supportive of comments Sera has made in the past, and I hope I have not been hurtful.
We're all a bit prickley, I'm just looking for a way to please everyone I guess.

Seriously, I'm asking do we need a seperate area for seperate disorders, or are we able to cope with potentially triggering posts without getting mad?

I guess we should just all let it go, I dont agree with some things that go on here, but oh well, that is my opinion and nobody has to agree with me. Its just me! I'm not a negative person, and it seems certain people get mad, when I say the word "shit". I will watch my language from now on and I just dont think this can be changed, there wont be a seperate post just for a/b ed's. Let's move on to helping each other again, my post was turned into something is wasnt and thats not fair, it was turned into a huge deal. I just wont write posts anymore!

Ah shit! I know from the past you use colourful blimmin language, the diet pills saga was hilarious, made me laugh out loud when you refused to kiss someones butt. With a son who has Tourette's and shouts "cock" casually at passing people, I'm not offended by your language, and I'm sorry I made you feel my post was about you. It's just that as a former over-eater I suppose I can see things from both sides, and depending on how much I've had to drink/how shitty my day has been, I take things more to heart.
Don't stop posting, you add such a lot to the community, and you speak sense. We'll never all agree, and if as it seems people here don't see the need for a seperate ana/mia community I guesss I just have to develope a thicker skin.
Perhaps I'm being picky about what is a discussion, I can be a pedantic cow at times.
Don't change sera20, I really do love you just the way you are.

Well, I just want you to know I didnt mean to offend anyone and I never thought it would become this big! This is the main discussion today, How bout we change that?

Absoblimminlutely! How about who is the person that's helped you most today?!
Hugs.
Oh, by the way, for me it would be my mother-in-law. She cooked for the kids so I didn't have to!

I think my friend helped me today by going to lunch with me and bringing her baby boy Gabe and I got to play with him and act like a kid.

i do find myself reluctlent to post stuff at times, in fear of getting shot down,
becasue this is based just on words, and people can not see reactions, and intention, my messages may get miss read.

i do think it may be nice to have bulimic and anorexic groups seporate.

becasue our needs are different.

on the other hand,
what ever happens, someone will be unhappy about it, we cant please everyone.

I agree with Juice. This board seems to cater to anorexia and bulimia specifically, which I"m NOT saying is a bad thing.

I do think that if people are triggered when COE come in asking for weight loss tips, etc. that something needs to change.

Whether that is just knowing that anything posted has the potential to be triggering or making separate communities, I don't know.

Sorry to be so late responding Juice. It's been a busy day.