I think now that I am in recovery it would be a good time to have a baby ( i mean after we get married and damn I am 26!) But if I was still purging and restricking and having problems with ed (which than god im not right now :) I would not try to get preggo when I was in the middle of ed. I mean I gave all my attention to ed and it is a destructive behavior, do I want my child to see that, to have it ingraved in its poor little head? Hell no!! I would never do that to a child, that would be torture. I think I need to give myself an extra year or so, before me and my man try. I have only been in recovery for about a year.

i was in my ed bad when i got pregnet with first baby and i started to eat i gained so much wt.

When I got married (1st time at 24,) my doctor advised me to not get pregnant until I had my EDs sorted out, but since I was so thin and wasn't getting a period, I figured, "why use protection?" (I had NEVER used protection, ever.) Lo-and-behold....I got pregnant! I certainly wasn't expecting it, and although I quit smoking no problem & started "eating for two," my bulimic tendencies did not improve. The prospect of gaining wt even during pregnancy was too much for my sick brain to handle at the time. Everyone was so concerned, and I ended up going to the high-risk clinic for weekly monitoring. THANK GOD my little girl arrived weighing 7lb 7.5oz, and was just the most perfect little thing I'd ever seen! I decided to breast feed the hungry girl (again, not advised to by my doctor,) and within two months, I had gone down to just under 100 lbs while my daughter continued to gain wt at the appropriate rate! It turns out she was taking ALL I had. The doctor equated it to me being "the host" and my daughter was the "parasite" doing what she had to do to survive. Makes sense.

Life with an ED and a baby is not easy mainly because early motherhood requires more energy and physical strength than you could ever imagine. My parents ended up taking the two of us in and looking after us because the "sperm donor" fucked-off on us. It was too hard for him, and HE was healthy!

I'm sorry I'm so wordy, but that's just me. But anyways, my ED's have affected my daughter in a positive sense: she does NOT want to end up like me. It's hurt her deeply to have to visit me in the hospital repeatedly over the years, and for that I'm SO SORRY. The hardest part was always when she'd lean over to give me a kiss good-bye, and she'd tell me, "I love you mommy." And as my parents each took one of her hands in their's, she'd have big tears in her eyes and be fighting not to cry. But selfishly, I have no regrets that I had her. She is my life and my greatest source of love. We are FAMILY, and every family has it's problems. Mine just happens to be ED. Yes, I'd rather do the whole thing over again without ED, but I accept that I can't turn back the time. You, my friend, are still so young and can still make some changes in your health before becoming a mom. I know it's hard, but I know of people who've succeeded FOR the sake of their unborn child. You can do it too!

For me, while I'm pregnant my nasty little ed friend goes away. But the second I come home from the hospital, it rears it ugly head again. But because of my kids, they give me a reason to get better. And they're great distractions!

I had my kids before ED. But I'm absolutely sure that if I became pregnant now I would recover for at least 9 months. It's different if you screw with your own body but if you have another life inside you I think responsibility and love for that little one kicks.
I probably would relapse afterwards but maybe not and that maybe might be a big chance for you.
For you life with a baby. It's takes a lot of physical and emotional strength(postpartum depression got me once and it was hell). If you want to breastfeed you still have to eat well and getting up in the middle of the night every four hours or so is exhausting, plus you have to be there during the day. Not much time for rest. But as far as I can say babies are the greatest joy ever. They love you, the smell sooooo good and they make you laugh.

Thank you all for such insight. I am so worried about bringing a little life into this world and not being all I can to love and cherish it. My mother had COE and it completely affected our upraising. I never want to be like that as a mother.

Thanks again.

This concept scares me... Children are so very, very, very, perceptive, and although I don't have any yet - I fear having them, because I don't want them to see how I relate to food and weight. My Mum did this around me when I was growing up. She didn't know she was doing anything wrong, but clearly she had some impact on me. Also, then there's the argument that Ed's are genetic... My Mum was 38kg when she got married, I've had 11 years in this hell, and I just wouldn't want my child to go through the same thing. Also I don't think my husband would forgive me, I've put him through enough torture...

Ack, I went out tonight and geez there were adorable little kids and babies, and I just wanted to huggle one. But then I would have seemed freaking weird. Anyway....yeah, I'm so ready to have a baby in my head, but the other side of me says loudly: "YOURE NOT READY!" Kevin says, that if I get pregnant, then we get pregnant and keep the baby. However, that is unlikely with the low sperm count and my problematic cycles. Sigh, one day. One day.

hun...if you want to get pregnant, you have to be healthy...otherwise, your body will not let it happen. Our bodies are very well in tuned to know what we can handle...and if your body is under a great deal of stress, it will not allow you to get pregnant. I got this info from my doctor years back. Hope this help even a smidge. I understand how frustrating it is...I went through this as well. Good luck!

I know that I need to be healthy for quite some time to have a child, but I just want to hear from mothers that decided to have a child while suffering with an ED.

lily, i think that u need to talk to the member althea...she has an ED and is currently pregnant...and actually, her pregnancy is taking priority over her ED which i hear is quite common

I just had a baby in May and have struggled with an ED since I was 13. Pregnancy can be a trigger if you deal with anything else and it can also be a trigger for your ED. I saw a homeopath MD to help with alternatives to meds that wouldn't hurt my baby and my husband and I saw a therapist together to help. I'm in recovery. And, the messages about making sure you take care of your baby are fantastic. But, I had a tough time with breast feeding because it can become another way to get rid of calories.

Thanks for all the support guys- it pretty much agrees with what I was thinking in the first place- no kids until I am utterly healthy and under control.