Hey
Don't feel like that E.D's can come to anyone in all shapes and sizes, straight or gay..
Maybe it could be because yeah some lesbians can be strong etc BUT females also know and care ALOT more about appearence then males do??
I am not sure that is just my theory??
Reen xx

maybe becasue you are used to rejection and judging for one reason or another
that you are passing judgment on yourslef, on behalf of others.

does that make sence?

if you assume people are going to be mean to you, then maybe you are thinking it even before they do.

one of my very close friends is gay, and she didnt tell us about her long term girlfriend for weeks and weeks, becasue she didnt want the fuss made. but when she told us, noone even battered an eyelid.

most of us dont think of you any different for having an ed, your sexuality, hair colour, fave music.......

so dont think you have to be something you are not, if you have an ed then thats you. dont be ashamed of it.

does that make sense??? i hope so...

xxx

weakness isnt necessarily bad

AN ED can affect any one. In my treatment group we have a male that is gay actually he is the only male in our group. He is anorexic. regardless of who you are if you need help or have a problem you deserve it as much as any one. ((hugs))

EDs are not orientation, race, sex, social status, or age specific...and u know what cass? even though its usually women who have them...i have met quite a few men with them in treatment...and u know what? i have never heard anything about it only being a straight person's disease...never ever ever

EDs are not orientation, race, sex, social status, or age specific...and u know what cass? even though its usually women who have them...i have met quite a few men with them in treatment...and u know what? i have never heard anything about it only being a straight person's disease...never ever ever

well, firstly, i'm a lesbian leaning bi sexual, although i'm currently playing in hetero land (yeah, i 've stopped trying to figure it out) and i think i know what your talking about. being concerned or seen to be concerned with ones looks is seen as something straight girls do to impress straight boys. so if you have an eating disorder you are seen as trying to conform to an ideal that a lot of lesbians reject. personally i find that dumb for two reasons. one i'm girly and like girly girls and i dont think that makes my attraction any less legit. two, eating disorders have very little to do with being attractive and are usually symptoms of other problems. i dont know too many seriously ill people with eds that are really doing it just to be attractive. i think its ironicaly closed minded that even within the supposedly open minded 'alternative' community that is the lesbian world that there is a certain amount of judgement leveled at us women who also happen to have eating disorders

Growing up in San Francisco with a gay sister I know the "strong and proud" facade which you feel you must live up to. I've never walked a mile in your shoes, except for the high-heeled flight attendant ones, but I hope all of these replies make you feel more open. Everyone would love and understand you if you said you were from Jupiter. XOXOXO

Why should you be proud and strong just because you are a lesbian. I'm straight but I don't think it's something to feel proud or strong about it. It's just a sexual preference. So you have the same "right" to be anorexic as anybody else along with all the emotions that come with it.

hey hon i am bi....ed knows no boundaries...and u are strong and i am proud u are speaking your mind...that shows bravery! hugs to u