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I messed thanksgiving dinner up

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Dinner did not go well for me. My boyfriend is so angry at me, my mom just went to bed. I am alone and I am so angry with my I don't know what to do. My ways of dealing with these kind of feelings are never good, I am trying so hard not to SI. I dont know why i am asking for help because i am just going to screw up anyway. Why do they take it so personally? Why can't they be understanding instead of getting angry with me. Don't they realize nothing good has ever come of that?
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Im sorry you are struggling thanksgiving is always tough!
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sometimes the world just seems so unaware of what's really going on....i can definitely identify with that.

I didn't do too well (i ate a pretty good amount, but had been challenged by my nutritionist to eat more and more non "safe" things....which didn't really happen).

All i can say is that we did what we did, and we made it through. We learn from the past and eventually things get better. Hang in there. It is COMPLETELY not your fault what happened. if YOU (not your ed) had had complete control (essentialy, you had been you) dinner would have gone better. the ed had some (if not most of the) control. don't blame yourself. Just like your mom/boyfriend getting angry at you, you getting mad at you isn't going to do any good. het mad at the ed that made thanksgiving dinner not go well, that was the only root of the problem.

I'm here, you're not alone...hang in there

-Debbie
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I didn't do too good either and I beat myself up over it. But I know we should be gentle with ourselves. Holidays are extremely difficult and we do the best we can. I'm sorry you bf and mom are angry, maybe they are more worried and frustrated. Let them cool off and then tell them how their reaction hurt you and how the can be more supportive next time.
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I can understand how you feel with the added pressure of your families reaction to the day. We were taught as carers that there are no good days or bad days with this illness, and families have to remember this and remind themselves constantly that there is good and bad in every day and that they should focus on the good parts, so well done you for participating in the festivies as much as you could, move on now, forget yesterday and focus on today. LOL xxx
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