Eating Disorders Support Group

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I have to say this... 0 are heartbreaking to see

deleted_user
deleted_user
Please forgive me if this does not come out well. I am having a difficult time and I do not want to say anything that will upset anyone, but it is something that has bothered me. I hate comming to this discussion bord and seeing 0 comments when someone needs help. Normaly I will try to respond to as many as I can even if I have no good advise just so they will not feel alone. It is really hard for me today. I have not been here in a while and I wanted to post to get some support and the first thing I saw was two 0 comments and one post that it in the hundreds. I know this is not done to hurt anyone. I know we are all here to support and help one another. I just don't understand this and I don't like it it bothers me.
Juice
Juice
I don't always know what to say to people, and I don't want to do more harm than good. We all do what we can in our own way without becoming personally diminished. We can't allow our inability to answer soneone else's post add to the feelings of guilt we all have!
Don't let it get you down. If you take a look at how long they've been up without coment it's not so bad.
deleted_user
deleted_user
i totally agree with juice...but i have to ask what are O comments? sorry if i'm sounding thick!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I try to comment to everything that I feel I can give good advise on, somethings Im not sure what to say! its not intentional, but she the smart thing to do, if you dont know what to say, then you dont say anything. I hope someone will come along that will know what to say to the person. I will try to be more open to all the discussions and see if I can answer more.
LillyAudrey
LillyAudrey
Thanks for your discussion. You've made me think about how awful that would be for someone, and I will try to be a better community member :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree that being a self-centered addict I tend to internalize everything so when I see that no one's replied I feel "well, they don't like me". In another group that I go to I have asked for support plenty of times and peole just ignore me. Typical high school politics. I do think that this group is WAY more supportive and I try to remember that people have their problems and sometimes just don't have any strenght or advice to give themselves.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sometimes you just don't know what to say. You feel awful for the person, but the right words don't come.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thanks for all of your replies. I am sorry that I get so overwhelmed...I just wish we could all get the help we need and move past all this pain. I wish I knew how not to hurt myself and how to stop others from doing the same. I know you are all right that we have to be careful not to say something that might hurt someone. I don't ever want to do that, I want to be responsible and respectful of everyone here. Thanks for being caring in your responses. I will try not to be so sensitive to this in the future.
deleted_user
deleted_user
i was thinking the same thing justnow. right be fore i saw you post i saw one with no comments! i was heartvroken. that happened to me in the hepc community and i felt horrible. like my question or comment was not worth anything! note: i do love both my communities, i am just showing an example:) you guys, just put something, anything. it does not even have to be advice. say god bless or gret job oy that you will find out forthem.. something. great post, running...?
missyS
missyS
u my dear are only one person and can only do so much...u cannot respond to everyone on the board...and well u cant make other people write to them...just know that u do waht u can and that is all u can ask...when i first came on this site, i wrote on this board and no one responded...yes it was discouraging...but over time, my posts began getting responses
deleted_user
deleted_user
I always try to post something for someone. Even if I don't really know what to say. But it's not always easy...because there are a lot of posts to read...and it is also hard to get through all of them. Doesn't mean we don't want to though.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I feel like I respond way too much and people are probably a little sick of me :(
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