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Hey, I haven't been here in a while. I've been doing pretty well. Today is the first time in a long time, I've had the urge to binge/purge for obvious emotional reasons (versus just because I am extremely insecure, body image, etc) . I learned yesterday that my boyfriend cheated on me. He did tell me on his own, but it is a really sensitive topic for me (my dad cheated on and left my mom in high school) and I feel betrayed and hurt. I'm having a rush of emotions. I can't really name them, but I want to binge/purge or cut or restrict. It is pretty disorienting because I haven't felt like using these coping mechanisms in a while. I don't know what I'm going to do about him. So far, I'm giving him a second chance, However, talking to him on facebook is really bringing the urges up. I don't know what to do with these urges and feelings either. Any ideas on how to deal without regressing?
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i would remoive your self from the situation for a while. take a few hours to yourself... take a walk, read, hangout with soem friends, watch a movie, if you have pets play with them. just clear your mind so you can look at the problem refreshed
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i agree with WD09 about removing yourself from the situration and try to focus on yourself. u need some space from this. i know i dont know anything about your relationship with him or anything but you are so young and so much can happen in your 20's. i am only 28 and so many cool things happened between being 20 and 28. boys come and go and sometimes you have to let someone go to see if they are even the one taht you want to keep in your life. you deserve the best so just take time to think things over.
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I am so sorry. That is not an easy thing to go through. Take it minute by minute if you have to. Go to a trusted friend that knows about your problem and let them know what you are contemplating and have them stay with you awhile until you resist. It is never easy to do it in fromt of the people that care about you.
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Thanks for the replies and advice. I got offline for the night and I made it through successfully. Honestly I am still unsure of what to do, but I'm in a better place today...less of an urge.

lg5288- I'm not so sure there with be a plethora of other males. I'm pretty shy, really geeky, and objectively average
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There are many guys out there and you deserve the best so dont sell yourself short by thinking negative and untrue things about yourself. your pic is so pretty and geeky and shy i think are very positive and attractive characteristics. i guess in the end im just saying to take some time away for your guy for a bit to get things straight in your head.......i believe in second chances too but with thinking before yea know. i hope i didnt hurt your feelings or bother you in some way, i just wanted to express my experiences through my 20s. im always here to listen. HUGS
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Oh hon I am sooo sorry you are going through this right now! But remember that by giving into the ED urges,...it'll only make you feel worse! Your stronger than that!
&& you deserve so much more.. Hugs!
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Not at all lg!

Thanks again everyone
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