Hi all - please help!! My BF knew I had an issue years ago with bulimia as I confided in him. He did not know me at the time, but I felt the need to let him know certain important things about me. Well, last week he asked me if I was throwing up and I said NO WAY. I totally lied. I am a true believer in honesty is the best policy, but with this I feel that admitting to it now and outwardly lying to him - I dont know if he will stay with me. My therapist says that I need to tell my BF at some point - when I am on the road to recovery, but I honestly do not know what his reaction will be. He was betrayed terribly in a previous relationship and this secret could ruin our relationship. We are AWESOME together - love eachother, respect eachother - we are so much alike. There are SO MANY instances where I purged and lied about it. The big issues that he would have difficulty accepting is 1) not taking care of myself - which is extremely important to him and 2) Lying - it is unacceptable and I agree with this. How do you tell someone that you are addicted to the toilet? Know one can possibly understand why I eat and then puke - it is such unnatural behavior and I feel so ashamed of this. I'd like to know how any of you revealed your ED to your significant others.
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