Eating Disorders Support Group
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I feel that girls are not attracted to me at all. I get the impression that a man who is 5'7, 120 does not seem like a man at all but more like a boy. I cannot make a relationship work or even get one off the ground. I feel judged everywhere I go, I feel abnormal and freakish. This is making it increasingly difficult to go out in public and I feel extremely self-conscious now, like I'm being analyzed with a microscope. I hardly have the confidence to do anything now. What can I do between now and the time when I've added some pounds (let's hope)?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I know that so often when we feel like you're feeling now, we're afraid to meet the gaze of the people around us - because we might actually catch a glimpse of what they are thinking. And that might confirm what we THINK they are thinking.
We are our own worst critics, are we have twisted perceptions about what everyone else is thinking about us.
Make a leap, make some eye contact. And if some people do give you a look you don't like - you stare them down. Because you're a human being, and you're standing right in front of them.
Lots of luck out there in the dating world. It's rough even without mental illness. ::hugs::
Just like all men are not attracted to the same women, all women are not attracted to the same men.
The less confidence you have, the less you will gain respect from others. People find solace in "solid" people, who have confidence in what they are good at. Find something you have power in, and make it your mission. Learn to have pride in that, the confidence will follow, and the social connexions and relationships will come.
Trust me it works.
Also if you start making progress with your weight etc then you will start to feel more attractive and thus start to look it!
But just for the record, this wont put all girls off you! Like someone above me said, we all have types and maybe you just havent found yours yet!
Good luck, and take my advice-it works!!
xx