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How can I help my daughter?

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My daughter hasn't eaten properly for about 5 months now. She enjoys sports and plays for different teams though out the week, unfortunately because she hasn't eaten enough I'm called by the school because she is too weak to play / walk home from school.

I am trying to understand. I prepare small meals for her, give her dried fruit / nuts, salads for lunch, but she not even eating that now. She tells me she wants to eat healthy, no e numbers etc in her food, become veggie. She has lost about 14lbs may be more and she wasn't even overweight in the first place!!

What do I do? She has been referred by her doctor, but there is a waiting list for a psychologist and I fear she is getting worse.
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Can you call the psychologist's office and see about getting her bumped up on the waiting list? Explain the situation in detail. I think if they know that her health is in serious immediate danger, they might considering seeing her sooner. The longer they make her wait, the tighter the grip of the eating disorder will be on her. Good luck!
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Get her to a therapist immediately. Don't wait for the opening. I'm sure there's another one that can see her now. This can get out of hand rather quickly. Trust me...I've been there...And I didn't have a parent that cared. I had a parent that thought i was too fat and was thrilled when I lost weight.
missyS
missyS
u need to get her into therapy asap!!! and keep up tryin to prepare healthy meals for her.....but just so that u know for someone with an ED...nuts are scary scary scary....as are salads dressings....
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I agree with everyone else, get her to a therapist NOW! This can and will go out of control very quickly. Also, the doctors may want her to be with a nutritionist as well. But that comes later. The psychologist is necessary, now. After some sessions, they will probably (or should) refer her(and you)to the nutritionist, who should work together with the therapist in her treatment.
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my niece had this type of problem and it is very serious- she was helped with and inpatienat program- look into that- find a hospital that has a program, If you read the stories on this site you will how important it is to take action quickly- find the the strength to act and act soon. other love you and support you.

5 years after her hospital treatment she is great and health and phd candidate in philosphy- but the doctors said we almost lost her.

love - peace - and action are what I suggest.

david
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I would try a school counselor. If you live near a univerity, they offer counseling services for outside people as well as students. these are graduate students. they also have a psychiatrist on staff at most university health centers.
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hi sand1426
i am fairly new to this problem to with my daughter although her's started differently it is all the same in the end. (she started as a vegetarian then to being a vegan) i should have seen the signs but i didn't she wore baggie clothes big sweatshirts and when you live with someone day after day i really didn't notice until the school nurse called and told me she had lost over 30 pounds in a few months. so i took her to my family dr. and thank God he refered us to a specialist we got in right away the day we went we talked to 3 drs. for over 3 hours right then and there she was diognosed with anorxia. we go to a specialist in eating disorders in our area once a week. i hate to say it she is still losing weight. i would like to say in my opinion the sooner you get help the better. good luck and God bless
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