Eating Disorders Support Group
Eating disorders are marked by an obsessive need to control the intake and/or purging of food. This community is dedicated to those struggling on the road to recovery. Join to discuss your experience with others and find support. Get advice, ask questions, and meet others who are going through similar struggles.
I am new to the community, but not new to ED.
I was recently hospitalized for depression and while I was there, I admitted to and faced my ED. This was a huge relief for me, but it caused a new set of stressors.
I'm posting now to ask all of you who have openly admitted your problem to those closest to you...how do you get over the shame of them knowing? And how do they respond to you? My significant other, as wonderfully supportive as he is trying to be, does not fully understand how complicated and difficult this is for me...how being home alone is not an option for me, how being among friends and family is uncomfortable for me now. And worst yet, he has a hard time because I don't fully open up to him because he does not understand and feels threatened that I turn to others for support. That brings me a new kind of guilt.
Also, because I have had this problem for so long, but he just learned about it, he has trust issues with me...and worries that I am hiding more from him.
I am also having an ongoing struggle with my weight. I am 5'1" and 110 pounds. This is light for me, and the "sensible" person in me believes I would be healthiest and can maintain at 115. However, I get mad at myself if I am even .5 lbs over 110 now...because now that I have hit this all-time low, I don't want to go up higher. In fact, a part of me secretly wants to get to 100 lbs, and I just can't understand why.
I get hungry, but don't want to eat. I constantly mentally count my calories and get mad at myself if I come close to 900 per day.
Does any of this sound familiar to you? I could really use some support on these issues.
Thanks very much.
I was recently hospitalized for depression and while I was there, I admitted to and faced my ED. This was a huge relief for me, but it caused a new set of stressors.
I'm posting now to ask all of you who have openly admitted your problem to those closest to you...how do you get over the shame of them knowing? And how do they respond to you? My significant other, as wonderfully supportive as he is trying to be, does not fully understand how complicated and difficult this is for me...how being home alone is not an option for me, how being among friends and family is uncomfortable for me now. And worst yet, he has a hard time because I don't fully open up to him because he does not understand and feels threatened that I turn to others for support. That brings me a new kind of guilt.
Also, because I have had this problem for so long, but he just learned about it, he has trust issues with me...and worries that I am hiding more from him.
I am also having an ongoing struggle with my weight. I am 5'1" and 110 pounds. This is light for me, and the "sensible" person in me believes I would be healthiest and can maintain at 115. However, I get mad at myself if I am even .5 lbs over 110 now...because now that I have hit this all-time low, I don't want to go up higher. In fact, a part of me secretly wants to get to 100 lbs, and I just can't understand why.
I get hungry, but don't want to eat. I constantly mentally count my calories and get mad at myself if I come close to 900 per day.
Does any of this sound familiar to you? I could really use some support on these issues.
Thanks very much.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I've never been ashamed about having an ED. The only time when I'm ashamed is when my husband sees me naked and I look like a skeleton. ED is a disease like any other. You wouldn't be ashamed if you had cancer would you?
Give your husband a bit of time to come to grips with your ED. He must feel very left out that you never told him. Did he never wonder about your eating habits though? I would buy him a book for people who have a loved one with an ED and also take him to a counseling session so the therapist can explain to him what is going on and you two can also work on your trust issues.