Hi Belle, I'm new here and just read your message. I am a compulsive overeater. I feel for you. I know just how you are feeling. I joined this community because I'm am very much overweight and really need to loose some weight. I just can't seem to get started. I'm hoping to find some help and support here. At the same time, I'd like to be here to support and encourage others who are also struggeling. I've pretty much been bored with life myself. Been lonely too. My depression is better, thank goodness. But I have been debating for about the past year whether or not I should try to loose weight. I want to and need to, but I'm so afraid of loosing it and gaining it and then some, back again. It's very difficult for me. I have used food my whole life to make me feel better. Chocolate is my biggest downfall. I have been eating as much of it as I want for the past year, and I can't imagine having to give it up. I feel like my only "pick me up" will be gone and then what dod I do? I guess I don't really have any answers, but want you to know you are not alone. And if I can help in anyway, please let me know. If you would like to talk, I'd be happy to. Please take care of yourself. It sounds to me like you are doing well as far as dieting goes, but that it's very difficult for you at this time. If I'm right and you are doing well with it, please, keep it up! I hope to hear back from you. I'll be checking my messages.
Thanks for listening,
barbaw36

try to chew gum...like we are not allowed to eat in class, but we can have gum...so whe nI want something swet i just chew some origional flavor extra gum..

haha about the gum! yes i am a gum addict. And dont have any at home for once, but dont want to go and by any.

Hello Belle & Barbaw. I'm also new to this site & can completely relate to everything you have both said. I turn to food for everything..happiness, sadness, boredom, lonliness. I, too, have a good amount of weight to lose but it's hard when all you want to do is eat. Then when you eat, you feel even worse, and of course you want to eat again. It's a vicous cycle. I just wanted you to know that you're not alone out there & I understand what you're going through.

I'm a compulsive overeater too. And I always feel scared too. And I eat when I am emotional, happy, oh hell, whenever! It bothers me alot. Weekends are the worse because at least during the week I have a set routine. It doesn't help that I'm also agoraphobic so I'm alone much of the time. I communicate with the outside world either by phone or on the computer. I try to go out at least once a week but that sometimes doesn't happen so I'm alone with my frig 24/7. I do try not to overeat but there's always something to set me off and I hate it. I think about food when I'm awake, plan my meals and anticapate them.
You're not alone.
I think the only way to be happy is to try and find it within yourself and I know it's so hard. I'm depressed alot of the time and I too am sick and tired of being sick and tired! If you know what I mean!
we're not alone, we have our communites here.
I hope that helps a bit!

fruit is sweet, and healthy, espeicaly if you eat the kind ath you can eat the peels with (apples, pears)
You could go out somewhere with a friend, and split a dessert, (most places are too big for just one person)
That way you HAVE to stop at just one serving... unless you're going to order a second one, but society pressures will normally prevent that.

Go out to a club, or meeting groups or take up a new hobby (i reccomend crafts, but i'm a nerd that way)

thanks everyone. I got through the day and night and didnt eat over it. I realised last night that i am the only one who can decide to be happy. even though its hard and dont feel like it, im just going to try to be happy, at least to get out of my own head and misery. Deemc....i too have a food plan that i devise every night for my meals the next day and then phone my OA sponsor to hand my food into her, but i anticipate the meals too. I stick to the food plan 100%. i know i have enough food to for the day to get me from morning to night. so even by eating a extra piece of fruit...would inevitably lead to a binge.