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Does anyone else get "clingy"/attached to a person or people. I never really had friends but when I left school I worked in a vet and I deloped a friendship with a nurse and a vet well when I left (because of the si) I stayed in contact with them but 2 mnths after I left the nurse didnt bother answering the fone to me and 6 mths later the vet said to me I was calling her too much, and asked me to stop so I did I became friends with my two of my neibours and I heard 1 of them say to a freind or relative I was annoying.
I dont mean to be clingy or annoying I dont even know why I allow myself to get so "close" to them

do this happen to anyone else or am i the only one? also if this does happen to others plese tell me how you stop it from happening
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I tend to get attached, and then people break my trust in some small way..and I feel like my world is crashing down.

I think allowing yourself to get close to people is a good thing. I also think there need to be limits sometimes (which I'm still learning), and it is kinda good to be a bit discriminating in who gets to be in your circle.
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I do it too, when I let people in. With every friendship there needs to be boundaries because certain people can't handle certain things. (or don't want to) There are self help books on boundaries in book stores that you could read up on to help with the relationships. Good luck.
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Thanks
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yeah, I get attached very easily. When I find people that I can actually relate to, people that I am comfortable around and that I can open up to, I try to hold onto them. And then there are times that I push everyone away. I think having an ED makes having friends and healthy relationships impossible. at least, it does for me.
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I'm like that two. I trust people too much and only think the best of them. When they suddenly turn on me I'm devastated and cry my eyes out because I feel abandoned.
So by now I might be too careful. I just can't open up a lot of times and isolate.
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i can get attatched and overtrusting and perhaps have too much faith in people and like Karrin says then get let down by them or more for me let myself get let down or push them away so they then let me down them and the world feels like its falling apart, vicious cycle of trying and wanting people close but then not wanting it, so agree with fyfa - normal healthy relationships with ed not really a go for me either.(hope that all makes sense, i'm a bit jumbled at mo)
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i always get attached to people
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Good to hear everyones thoughts. sometimes i think im the only one. I always get too attatched to at least one friend. I have always had a best friend, and the friend always seems to end terribly. Its like...if i cant be there best friend, and if they cant be there for me then i dont want them in my life. Its stupid thinking really. I cant seem to be able to find the healthy balance between me and my friends. At the moment i have no best friends...well no friends really except my OA friends. I find i feel so alone. But its too painful to have friends in my life right now.
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Thanks everyone it feels so good to know that i am not the only one who feels like this thanks so much
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I too get very attached and very depressed when they end. I perfer to be a loner it works better with my ed
LillyAudrey
LillyAudrey
I know exactly how you feel. I adore people and I always feel lonely, so as a result I always want to be everyone's friend. Even though I know I have many friends, I always have these tearful moments of doubt that no-one likes me. I care so much about what other people think about me-it's destructive. We need to be our own friend first, and then we won't need to seek so much from others perhaps.
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