It's not well-known that this is an anti-pro-ED website. You can type "eating disorders" into a search engine, and you'll get this site. So it could go either way.

Forums are forums because you debate and speak your mind. If people want to come onto a recovery site and kinda poke and prod to see what it'll do, let them, fine. But they must be ready for the hellfire that rains down (that is, a quarrel).

well i didnt know that but im sure the majority of people on here want help and i hate it when they say something someone doesnt agree with and people go mad cos i think that we should be more helpfull towards others u know

We should be helpful, I agree, but there is a difference between a post by a person that wants help, and a post by a person that's just trying to stir shit up, you know?

I agree with Emily. I don't see a lot of stuff on here that makes me think people are pro ana. I think some poeple just have a chip on their shoulder or something.

If it's a post where someone is crying out for help trying to quelch the voice, then that's great- we're here to help put the hammock underneath them to support them. But someone who posts threads where we get into comparisons of what someone has done in their eating disorder, or bringing up topics that are very obviously triggering...they are doing nothing but stirring that pot in order to get a reaction out of someone. They want that negative attention, so they can use it to fuel their fire. If anything, the topic should be ignored and allowed to die out.

Yeah, I don't think they're exacting pro-ED, but they aren't ready for recovery and they insist on dragging everyone else down in the mud with them. Nope, sorry, didn't come here to lie down in the pigpen.

I'm still not convinced people are trying to stir up trouble. I think some people mention size to provide information as to what kind of ED problem they have.

It's not about people not agreeing with each other. That's fine and just normal. But posting triggering stuff like numbers is not appropriate. Would good does it do to put your weight and height etc on here. It's just to get attention how skinny you are and it triggers others to compare and think that maybe they are not thin enough and they start starving even more.

It doesn't really MATTER what ED you suffer from- you are suffering, no matter what! Heaven's knows I've gone through all sorts of DSM-IV diagnoses, and what does it do but label me? That's not what these forums are for. They aren't here to slap a title on someone so you can help them- example being the fact that OA meetings can help anyone with any eating disorder if you work the programme. Sure it's called Overeaters Anonymous, but that's not all it's for. It's really for food addicts, which we all are.

I def agree with karrin there's no point in putting down numbers. Actually to be honest, i was scared to join this site, i've never done this before and i figured either it will help me, knowing that others can actually relate to me. OR i was really scared that by being on here, might make me feel more prone to increase the chances of my ed getting worse. At on point i had gained weight, and there was this girl in my grade that had a very athletic body,soon i noticed she was losing a lot of weight. We then went on x-mas break and when we came back she lost a lot more weight and all her muscle mass. It made me angry, not just because it was bad for her health, but in a sick way, i saw her and it made me direct a lot of anger towards my body. i was mad that i had gained the weight again and let myself lose that control and that it was "my disorder" and she couldn't have it. twisted right? but i was in a sense jelous!! how crazy of me, but i can't help how i felt. That's the same reason why i was skeptical about using this sight, but honestly i think it's helped. i wasn't sure if some people would be pro or not, and i felt that i might get judged, and as we all know that's NOT what we need. Though, i feel very comfortable so far on this site, everyone is supportive so far, thank you. i also try to think about what i say before i post it, i try to think that, if i were the reader, how would i feel about that comment posted? might it cause a trigger response to myself? and if i answer yes, then i won't post it.

Taylor, if you feel yourself getting triggered, take a BREAK. Do it for your sanity, and work on you without the added stress of others' opinions.

I took a break from the boards when I noticed that I was reading all the numbers and triggers and etcetera. Also, I mostly stay away from journal entries, because unlike the boards, journals are free reign- you write what you want, you feel what you feel, and the thoughts are splayed out in front of all others who dare to read.

I agree with a few of the others there is NO reason to put down size or numbers. We are to obsessed with those the way it is and need to stop thinking of ourselves in numbers. To ask for help doesn't require putting down a pant size, that kind of info is fine in your journal but inappropriate here. All it does is cause comparisons and competition which is innate in people with EDs.

Support is helping everyone. Whether that means helping the person who needs help at the time, or supporting the community by making sure that people aren't just "stirring shit up."


However, no one is Lord High Chancellor (and I don't think anyone is asking to be either). No one is Moderator. We all have to keep ourselves in check. Sometimes that does mean walking away as MUCH as it means stepping in.

Happy, happy, joy, joy.

Celticfife, spot on. Thank you.

im not sticking up for anymoe if they cause trouble it just winds me up when people are picking on eachother im not talking about numbers

but everyone needs to realise that yer some people write stuff we dont agree with but like i say instead of going off on one we should encourage them to get help instead