which posts are you talking about? Most of us here are against promoting EDs and against anything being said that might trigger an ED

I assume you are referring to the post on chewing and spitting. I admit that the conversation also makes me uneasy, as I don't know that it is a healthy solution to binging and purging. I think it helps to know that we are not alone in doing it (I also have done it), but agree that it is dangerous territory for discussion. I am not sure if that was the conversation you were referring to, but this was a concern of mine, so I thought I would put it out there. Not to monitor anyone or anything, but just to say we should recognize the direction those conversations can potential take.

Gosh, I'm glad you said that. I've been thinking about the chewing and spitting discussion from last night all day today to the point I've been thinking that it might not be a bad idea - and I know better than that. It was hard to stay away from that topic. I think we need to be really careful here. I also think it's tough to know what is going to be a trigger for someone else, so we need to remind people about this, but we should also do so gently. As in, "I'm sure you had no idea this is a trigger, but it is, so stop. Thanks."

i am sad to say that I have tried about 4 of the things i have read on here....i am not looking for tips (unless they are tips on how to recover faster or more successfully) but those stupid things still draw you in. i mean maybe we would have tried them anyway...maybe not. it's very frustrating and sad.

I find most of the posts and people on here very positive and helpful. I didn't open the cheweng and spitting post and I'm not going to.

Let's face it - life is full of triggers. As much as people want to monitor this site, it would be impossible for individuals who post to avoid speaking about each and every thing that may trigger someone. This is a support site, and people who come on here need to be supported in different ways. Unless the post directly violates the rule of being "pro-ana" and is blatantly asking for tips to immerse one's self further into their ED, or mentions specific heights and weights, we need to respect everyone's right to be supported.
Part of trying to endeavour to recover is to be able to at least start facing triggers and dealing with them in a more acceptable way.
I'm sorry, but it's getting to the point where I personally, don't even want to post in this community anymore for fear of being accused of triggering people.

I agree! We are on here to get support, and certain posts, like the chewing and spitting, and someone's reply on there about it being a great way to reduce calories, made me sick. And, I am not trying to get sick anymore, thank you very much, tee-hee.... Anyway, I think it puts those of us tetering on the edge of recovery at risk, and it isn't fair. Keep that stuff to yourself.

I'm sorry - I disagree. One of the things that has helped me to deal and further my recovery has been being able to share things with others on this site that I was formerly ashamed of and kept hidden for so long. It's pretty obvious by the title of the discussion post "Chew and spit" that yes, it might be deemed "gross" to some people. So avoid it.
By the way, you labelling that behaviour as "gross" just drives the nails of shame and self-disgust deeper into the minds of people who have a problem doing this behaviour.

My apologies - I misread. Noone actually refered to this post as "gross"....sorry!!

I think in general its just important to remember that we're all trying to recover, but are also in a place where its a challenge to resist temptations. I don't know that it is as black or white as "post this, not that" but I think in general (and I genuinely believe that we all are here to support one another and get healthy) I think it is just important to keep in mind how easy it is for all of us to fall in to these unhealthy practices.

I think you all rock though, and reading these posts and listening to your stories has been much much much more helpful than harmful to me- that is for sure.