I had ahuge talk with my dad today, he found me on here, and I was writing my journal about my ED, he went nuts, and then we talked for AGESSSS.

he only had a go at me because he is worried, and as we talked he became less angry. I never thought I could have talked to him about this, but I did. give it time, at some point you may find you have to.

I'm thinking of you, and I'm always here if you need to talk.
Loui xxx

trust me on this one..the sooner you say it the less the damage done..for everyone..your mum knows exactly what you were doing deep down..just dosent want to admit it to herself..eventually if you keep it a secret they will find out for sure and the fact that you denied it will make them feel worse..iv been through the exact same stuff..wasnt very pleasant telling my parents it took time for them to realise i wasnt shoving my fingers down my throat for fun..after all your parents probably know nothing about EDs..its so much better to sit them down and explain rather than have them discover it someday on their own which will make them more confused and angry about the whole thing..miSSmeSS xxx

You've been exposed...and that's OK. Deep down we want to people who love us to know so that we can look to them for support.

They are going to be angry. They are going to yell. They do it because they are scared and have no control over the situation. I've been called selfish so many times, but as you know you don't really WANT to do it. Selfish is spending family money on a Versace purse (or D&G, pick your poison). Having an eating disorder is something that you don't choose to suffer from.

On that note, now that others know you need to re-evaluate if its worth continuing. I know that if it was just me on this earth I would binge/purge from morning until night. Now that you've seen their reaction and you know how much it hurts them you've got to decide if its worth it anymore (as if it ever was).

Approach them with what you need...support from them, understanding on a difficult issue, and the things you need to help you recover (counseling, psychotherapy, inpatient). If they "attack" you end the conversation with a simple "Your angry response is not going to help the issue, therefore I can't talk to you about it right now." Don't write them off though...your family loves you.

Good luck and take care

It's a good thing for it to be out in the open. I only found out a couple of months ago that my Mum, sister and brothers all know I have an ED, but they've never spoken to me about it!This made me paranoid that they were all meeting up and talking about me ( out of concern; they're lovely). As far as I know, my husband hasn't guessed, but worrying about that increases my stress levels, feeds the disorder, and appeals to my sense of power through secrecy.
It sounds like like you had a horrid time, but the others who replied are right. I think I would feel better if I could tell people about it, and the old addage is right: it's good to talk.

I have been called selfish so many times... My mum has even said that she doesn't trust me because I eat too much.
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I really think you should tell your mum. I know for a fact that mine would probably not say stupid stuff like that if she knew. Parents are just terrified of their kids being hurt. That's all. Yeah, it may be seen as anger, but if they knew about the problem they might know how to deal.
Try going to something-fishy.org and printing off some information for her. You could even e-mail it to her if it's too difficult to do it in person.
Good luck xoxox