Divorce after Twenty years together Community Group

I want to start something for those of us that were married for a long long time. I think that we face a little different issues than those who were dating for a few years or even married for shorter period of time. Being married for so long we have older children some have grandkids dealing with teenagers and their reaction to the divorice empty nesters dating after 40...

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Words of wisdom to share.......

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Moving backwards is normal , but then so is moving fwd.....the only difference between the two is that ........one of them means you have accepted things and the other you don't . In the end you are the one in the drivers seat of your own life. Go ahead and live in the past if that is what you want to do. The world wont stop turning because of it. But,if you,want to make a difference in your life and the people around you. Break those chains that hold you back from achieving the things you really want and need...........I know "easier said then done" but not impossible! Yes ....you will make mistakes....guaranteed, but that is no reason to stop the fwd motion.......(unless you make it a reason) Progress not perfection.
pemdcat
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Oh how true...thanks
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That is certainly great words of wisdom! It certainly is easier said than done, but it is so true!
Lots of hugs to you!
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WOnderful words. Thanks for sharing!
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I felt truly at peace for the first time today. I think I'm in the forward motion.

I should be divorced in the next several months and I'm thinking about what I'll say to my stbx in court. If I'm not crying, I love to say thank your for my wonderful children and that most of our 30 years were happy. I'd like to smile and wave as I walk away.

Plus, I want to hand him a CD to listen to on his way home. The song is "It would have been Cheaper to Keep Her".
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sld1, Good for you! I am glad you feel at peace. That is a wonderful feeling, isn't it? I think you are a class act and I think it be great if you could say that to him. We do catch more flys with honey, don't you think? Hugs to you! I am proud of you!
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Progress not perfection.......... I like that.
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finding this today meant so much I felt myself slipping backwards and came on to gain some strength and found this piece. thank you!
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This is a keeper. Thanks, Missiann for sharing. Very wise and comforting words. Big hugs.
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Thanks for sharing this. I just finished the book "Codependent No More" on the plane yesterday and realized that it is a daily progress forward. We have to sometimes LEARN the changes we need to make. We can't always depend on our feelings or emotions. While they are good and we need to stay in touch with them and get it all out, when it comes to codependency, we have to make decisions and keep the boundaries. This is waht is hard, especially for us compassionate ones. What I have learned is to be and desire to be compassionate with healthy, safe boundaries. Now THAT is what I am striving for. Hugs to all.
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Thanks so much for your words of wisdom...I really needed that right now.
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Thanks for the wisdom!
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