It's a wide ranging group, we don't judge, we have big ears, wide shoulders and will support yoyu as best we can. The main thing is to stay positive this will be a tough road but you can get there. Start by taking baby steps if you stumble get back up dust yourself off, head up, you sound strong I try to look at each day as it comes and try to put a positive spin on it. Your children will do better than you think, I only have one daughter, 25 and she is my rock... Again we'll do the best we can. We may not fit your exact group but we all are grieving over the loss of a long time relationship. My heart goes out to you...

I recommend you get on medication ASAP. It really helped me when my husband of 29 years walked out for another woman. I would make sure you have a good therapist and maybe talk to a child therapist to figure out the best way to tell your children what happened. It all depends on their age. You don't want them to hear about it at school. Maybe you can tell them with a child therapist present. If it's as bad as you make it sound, get all of the help you can get. Maybe you can find a child therapist that specializes in this. Ask your local police department. They have seen this time and time again. They may have some ideas. May God bless you and your family.

Witchpooh All I can say is we are here for you...anytime day or night.. Be strong and just take it one step at a time God Bless!!!

I'm so sorry for all the hurt and deception. Please vent to us and let us help share some of your heartache. We're here for you.

You have a heavy burden, but as you can see, you have friends willing to help, support and strengthen you. Whether it's with our words, our support, our prayers, or whatever, Let us know how we can help.

thank you for the comments y'all. We are way past the road where I could take them to a therapist to tell them - it was front page news the next day and I told them everything. I agree with Sid - to have heard it at school would have been the worst. I told them they would hear everything here first - I can't prevent the kids from gossiping or teasing, but I can make sure that they have heard it here first. Do I know what is true and what is not yet? Not really. But at least they have an opportunity to bolster themselves against it before they head to school. They are doing better than I am right now, probably because they don't see the reality is that our bills remain the same and our income was just chopped to about 1/8th what it was. I was only working part time and have gone full time but I don't have benefits. My parents are a little better tuned in - one is not very good about money and keeps talking about the luxuries they will pay for - the other has figured out quickly that they will be helping me put clothes on the kids backs and that the trips out to dinner, the lawn service, etc. are over. Now if only the one with the reality check can get hold of the checkbook. And it doesn't help me that my talents never included being good with the money and I have to make all these immediate decisions about the finances without any time to research anything. If he had died, I would have had months and months to figure this all out as we were well insured. But, I guess you could never insure your life against this kind of thing.