Well, I don't know where to begin. 3 weeks ago I was happily married, planning for our 19th wedding anniversary next month and living an ideal life. Now, my husband is in jail for something truly awful and my teenagers and my elderly parents (who also live with me) and I are all reeling from the shock. Truly he was living a secret life so secret that I don't know how I will ever recover. Financially I am in such hot water I cannot even contemplate how I will ever get out. I am aggressively job searching since I was only a part time contractor and have no health insurance. His things are all around me, photographs that I don't know where the lie started - and for now, I have to keep my big mouth shut about the divorce I can't wait to have..the maiden name I want back...the disaster he has left us to deal with. I am strong, and I know some day that I will be ok again...but the weight of all the responsibilities, all the decisions that I must make, even for him... I don't know where to begin. And its so hard to know how much to tell our children, and when. So much has been in the paper...I have had to tell them so much more than young teenagers should have to know, never mind all at once. There is certainly no support group for what we are going through; even the therapist I saw this week looked shocked over every word I had to say. I want to talk to someone else who has been through what we are going through, but I don't know how to find someone this kind of thing is so rare.
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