I was at a friend's house last night ,my usual friday night gathering with old friends from my married days. I was a having conversation with a friend who is a recent widow , and an older senior woman who had also lost her husband recently.The conversation was about how hard it is to loose someone out of your life after such a long marriage and how everyday is a struggle. The two widows were chatting and I was agreeing and the older woman turned to me and said, well it is different for you as you chose to end your marriage! I just about fell on the floor.....Thankfully, my other friend said to her that she actually felt it was even harder for a person going through a divorce, especially if they did not want it? Interestingly, I started thinking about this and my thought is.....Why is it that society and even those close to us think it is so much harder for a person to loose a spouse to death versus a divorce? They are both immeasureable and painful experiences that I would not even wish on my worst enemy. It is funny, because when I am in this same circle of friends which is quite often, They never ask me about me , it is as if they really dont want to know? Hmmmmmmmm, maybe it is time to find new friends?
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