Divorce after Twenty years together Community Group
I want to start something for those of us that were married for a long long time. I think that we face a little different issues than those who were dating for a few years or even married for shorter period of time. Being married for so long we have older children some have grandkids dealing with teenagers and their reaction to the divorice empty nesters dating after 40...
So here's todays contribution - Journey to the heart - Melody Beatty
"Trust that Guidance will Come
Trust and act on the guidance you have now.
Some parts of our lives appear like a long, paved highway. We can see exactly where to go; we have a panoramic view. Other times it may feel like we're driving in the car with only one headlight on a winding road through the fog. We can only see a few feet in front of the car.
Don't worry if you can't see that far ahead, if you only have a glimmer of light to guide your path. Slow down. Listen to your heart. Guidance will come. Trust what you hear. Do the small thing. Take that one step. Go as far as you can see.
Then go back to your heart, and you'll hear the next step. It may be a step of immediate action, or deliberate inaction. Sometimes you may have to quiet down, wait and prepare yourself to hear what you're to do next.
Trust and act on guidance you have now, an dmore will come"
Been one of those days - I enjoyed the up part of the ride it lasted and today was heading down that downward slope - had to talk to stbx - that always does it - I wrote my letter to him letting him go - wonderful feedback I got from him today on it - I know I shouldn't let it bother me but it does - it just hurts like hell - to know that after 21 years - you just don't matter - that you haven't been given any credit for any part of the good times - and to be blamed for the end of it. I think he just bided his time - he waited till our daughter was almost 18 - to him then he could just walk away - free and clear. I never realized that this man had no conscience. It is beyond me - how you just decide your kids are adults now - and that's it - so long been nice knowing ya - and then have the balls to tell me that you are there for them. I'm sorry folks but I just don't get it. And damn it all anyways - now I'm crying and feel like shit once more.
Sorry for the vent - but - I'm going to take some quiet time tonight and see if my heart can guide me out of this damn mess.
"Trust that Guidance will Come
Trust and act on the guidance you have now.
Some parts of our lives appear like a long, paved highway. We can see exactly where to go; we have a panoramic view. Other times it may feel like we're driving in the car with only one headlight on a winding road through the fog. We can only see a few feet in front of the car.
Don't worry if you can't see that far ahead, if you only have a glimmer of light to guide your path. Slow down. Listen to your heart. Guidance will come. Trust what you hear. Do the small thing. Take that one step. Go as far as you can see.
Then go back to your heart, and you'll hear the next step. It may be a step of immediate action, or deliberate inaction. Sometimes you may have to quiet down, wait and prepare yourself to hear what you're to do next.
Trust and act on guidance you have now, an dmore will come"
Been one of those days - I enjoyed the up part of the ride it lasted and today was heading down that downward slope - had to talk to stbx - that always does it - I wrote my letter to him letting him go - wonderful feedback I got from him today on it - I know I shouldn't let it bother me but it does - it just hurts like hell - to know that after 21 years - you just don't matter - that you haven't been given any credit for any part of the good times - and to be blamed for the end of it. I think he just bided his time - he waited till our daughter was almost 18 - to him then he could just walk away - free and clear. I never realized that this man had no conscience. It is beyond me - how you just decide your kids are adults now - and that's it - so long been nice knowing ya - and then have the balls to tell me that you are there for them. I'm sorry folks but I just don't get it. And damn it all anyways - now I'm crying and feel like shit once more.
Sorry for the vent - but - I'm going to take some quiet time tonight and see if my heart can guide me out of this damn mess.
-
I miss traveling with my husband. Has anyone found a specific site regarding cruising for widow/widowers or any sightseeing trips. Not interested in being with couples and kids,,,I realize a cruise ship will have a portion size of families and couples, but perhaps they also put together a part of the cruise ship for groups of widows/widowers????
-
A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...
You are so real...I just love reading what you have to say, I listen! This is good post, a needed post today, thanks! I am sorry you are in pain, and I'm so sorry you are crying. I do understand all that you feel. ...again, I'm sorry.
Keep the FAITH! and we are all here for you, with open arms and huge shoulders!