Divorce after Twenty years together Community Group

I want to start something for those of us that were married for a long long time. I think that we face a little different issues than those who were dating for a few years or even married for shorter period of time. Being married for so long we have older children some have grandkids dealing with teenagers and their reaction to the divorice empty nesters dating after 40...

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This is HARD!

RiS
RiS
I'm trying real hard to forget about him but he still comes in my mind - the thoughts, the dreams. I keep on telling myself he is a jerk and he doesn't want me anymore but it doesn't help totally. I try not to get upset especially in front of the kids. It hurts so much being rejected and I want to be strong for them. My daughter is 26 and my son is 22. They have their own lives and problems and I don't want to be a burden on them. This fact also pisses me off because he left for another and when he does come here he leaves and I'm here dealing with whatever alone. When something does come up and I tell him he says 'that's life'. Nice, ha - I feel like telling him where to go!!!! My daughter is moving out in August so I'm glad she will be in (I hope) a better situation living with her boyfriend than living with her mommy. She already told me that when she gets married she doesn't want her father walking her down the aisle. Knowing this, doesn't this bother him? I don't get it!
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deleted_user
After 7 months, I still have those intrusive thoughts but they come less frequently and are less intense now. Something that helped me was to have no contact with my ex. It only makes me hurt more. I also did not ask him for help or tell him anything. Being away from him helped me gain perspective to do what was best for me and to break the connection (as sad as it was) that we had for 24 years.

Hang in there, be strong and you will learn that you can do things you never thought you could. Lots of hugs!
RiS
RiS
So right! With his mom living across the street to avoid the contact I've been timing it that when he comes here I have to (by coincidence) go to the store for something. I also go visit someone. This sucks but until I can leave here - helps.
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