Divorce after Twenty years together Community Group

I want to start something for those of us that were married for a long long time. I think that we face a little different issues than those who were dating for a few years or even married for shorter period of time. Being married for so long we have older children some have grandkids dealing with teenagers and their reaction to the divorice empty nesters dating after 40...

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Telling him I know about OW

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Ok...I have been to the lawyer and on sunday I plan on telling him I know about the OW. I think he will be in shock, I have all my ducks in a row. All that division of property and stuff. I am sure he will turn it all back on me,,,thats how it always is, but ya know...no matter how indifferent the marriage has been the past year he chose to cheat. I did not cheat...he did. It was his choice. I did not make him cheat! It may actually have been indifferent because he was cheating. I don't know for sure how long the OW has been around or if she is the first. Things should get interesting! Keep me in your thoughts as I keep all of you!
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My guess is he will deny, deny! They are unable to be truthful. Good luck to you.
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Good luck. I'm glad you have your ducks in a row!! Stay strong.
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Shoot, I told mine today that I knew about OW and you know what he said?! - My friend? yeah, because you were snooping - He didn't even bother to deny it, just made me out to be the bad guy for "snooping"! I told him that I had heard things and needed to know if I had a marriage left to save and he said I didn't the day I agreed to file. How much swearing and name calling can we do on this board anyway?
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Good luck tomorrow. I'll be thinking about you. Put your vidio camera out to get it on tape or a voice recorder. Watch him deny or fall apart.
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go read my post on my life with divorce group
under the post getting to know you
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MSDE...I can't find it..can you repeat?
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To the day that my ex left my home and moved into a new place with her he refused to admit, and adamantly denied he was having an affair. I still cannot figure out what the heck that was all about. Sounds like you are handling it much better, having everything in order and not acting on a stricly emotional level is so wise. Good luck, know that you have tons of support behind you and that you are the good person!
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One I had proof and I confronted my X he admitted it and said he was glad to finally quit lying, cheating and sneaking around. But, so many people don't admit it, even with proof. You know you are right, you have to confront. Good luck and my thoughts are with you.
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