Hello! This is my first time on something like this, but a friend suggested it. Well over a year ago, I confronted my husband about an affair. He told me he was not sleeping with her but thinks about her all of the time. We actually had, what I thought was a great marriage prior to that. He works away during the week and of course that is where she is...at his work. He continuously denies that she is part of the problem and that it is things I have done. The only thing he takes responsibility for is lack of communication. We dealt with the losses of some very significant people in our lives (thru death), she became his best friend and I became nothing, and now our marriage is nonexistant. I made him leave 1 1/2 mo. ago, but he continues to see our teenage child. I seem to be fairly strong during the weeks, but I just fall apart on weekends. Why is that I can feel like I will survive sometimes, while others, I wonder how I will make it thru the weekend. Thankfully, I have a great kid, but he is struggling with all of this as well. How do you let go of loving someone so deeply? I gave him everything of me and I feel like he has just thrown it all away, as if it never mattered. He has not been sad over it. I even had to tell him to stop talking so poorly to our son. How do you move on after all of those years, like none of it ever existed? I do have to see him on a regular basis and that hurts like hell to see him barely look at me and have such negative feelings for me. It brings tears to my eyes every time I think about it. I know that I will make it through, but when does the pain stop? I think he is going through a midlife crisis, but I cannot sit around and let him tell me he doesn't care about me and he doesn't give a shit any more. Any thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated.
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