My divorce will be final the early part of Sept. My lawyer will file the papers on August 18th. My stbx has been calling and acting like he's my best friend. I was the one who filed as my stbx had a second relationship (not the woman he left me for) with a lawyer and I got scared and worried that he might try to "screw me over" again (as far as the separation agreement goes). He also moved across the country and my lawyer informed me that if he filed before me I should retain a lawyer in that state to ensure that he wouldn't try to change anything.I don't know why, but I feel so down about the divorce. It is such a finality to 24 years of marriage. I was doing so well and now I have this pit in my stomach and feel so empty inside. I am constantly questioning myself, "Am I doing the right thing by going through with this, or will I end up regretting it?" Some friends tell me to listen to my heart, others say to me, "No hope for reconciliation?" and some say nothing at all. My daughter told me she couldn't tell me what to do, but if it were her she would go through with the divorce. Has anyone else ever felt this doubt? I really can not imagine getting back tgether with him as; 1. He never has asked to come back home and 2. I honestly don't believe I could ever trust him again. Please, if anyone has any words of wisdom for me or just a good swift kick in the rear-end to get me thinking straight again I would appreciate it so much! Thanks for letting me vent...I appreciate all of you sooo much!
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