Divorce after Twenty years together Community Group

I want to start something for those of us that were married for a long long time. I think that we face a little different issues than those who were dating for a few years or even married for shorter period of time. Being married for so long we have older children some have grandkids dealing with teenagers and their reaction to the divorice empty nesters dating after 40...

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Now what?

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I want to move on. I want the things everyone wants, love, companionship, etc. I've been without affection, hugs, kisses, etc,for about 3 years. How do I go about finding this. Will guys look past the wheelchair ?
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I can only answer for myself. I don't care if a person is in a chair or not. It's what the person is made of. I also think we have all been beaten down so much that our confidence is lacking.

Will I ever be able to trust anyone again? I honestly don't know. I don't know where to even meet men. I'm a person that is also looking for a new life. What kind of life that is, is in the future. I need some time to find me again.

I wish you luck in your journey.
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I agree! If someone cannot see past the wheelchair, they are not worth your time! Sld1 said it well...we have all had our selfworth and confidence wiped out and I do believe that rebuilding ourselves is a journey in itself!

Trust is a HUGE issue for many of us and it actually scares me! I do not want to turn into a bitter person, but I am right now! I have decided that meeting people and doing things with people is one thing, but I don't think I am anywhere close to being ready for a relationship again! Maybe, if and when the right person comes along, it will just happen! Be happy with who you are and love yourself...the rest will come!
Big hugs!
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I believe all of us who were once happy in a relationship miss the love and hugs. We really must become happy and confident in ourselves again before we would really even be ready for someone else in our lives. I think you deserve happiness!!!
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Best wishes. I truly believe there is someone for everyone. Think of Jill Kinmont ("The Other Side of the Mountain") and Joanie, who has a self-titled book. I loved these books when I was young and maybe they will inspire you too. You deserve love. We can't say what form it will take, but we can all find love in some form by giving it out to others.
hurtinandhealin2560
hurtinandhealin2560
MDawn is right--don't look for a relationship right now, just look for friends.
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