Divorce after Twenty years together Community Group
I want to start something for those of us that were married for a long long time. I think that we face a little different issues than those who were dating for a few years or even married for shorter period of time. Being married for so long we have older children some have grandkids dealing with teenagers and their reaction to the divorice empty nesters dating after 40...
Okay a new day, a new beginning - my promise today - to believe in life. I have so much to be thankful for.
In reflecting, yesterday was hard - but I realized where I am is truly a better place than where I have been. I know that when this is over, when the healing has taken place - I will be better for it - I've been forced to look inside, to answer to myself - to learn to praise myself, to give credit to myself for those things I've done well. I have been a good mother, a good daughter, a good friend, a good wife, to some the things I've done have not been good enough - but I gave it my all. I have not failed and I am not going to think myself of a failure.
I have another 40 years to go - I can look back and see the positive - I can see the accomplishment - I can see how far I've grown.
I will continue to be the best mom I can, the best friend that I can, the best daughter that I can be - I can be proud of who I am - I chose life - I chose to open my heart - not to be bitter, not to have regrets. I chose to look at my short falls and learn from those. Yes I am definitely in a better place.
I know by having this forced on me - I've not run away - like some - I will find happiness, and joy again - I will open my heart some day to share again -I'm not ready for that - I'm okay with being by myself for a while - I am me, I am not someones wife, someone who has to let go of my values, my beliefs for anyone else.
I know I will always have the support and love of my family, my children, my friends - that makes me valuable I value myself.
In reflecting, yesterday was hard - but I realized where I am is truly a better place than where I have been. I know that when this is over, when the healing has taken place - I will be better for it - I've been forced to look inside, to answer to myself - to learn to praise myself, to give credit to myself for those things I've done well. I have been a good mother, a good daughter, a good friend, a good wife, to some the things I've done have not been good enough - but I gave it my all. I have not failed and I am not going to think myself of a failure.
I have another 40 years to go - I can look back and see the positive - I can see the accomplishment - I can see how far I've grown.
I will continue to be the best mom I can, the best friend that I can, the best daughter that I can be - I can be proud of who I am - I chose life - I chose to open my heart - not to be bitter, not to have regrets. I chose to look at my short falls and learn from those. Yes I am definitely in a better place.
I know by having this forced on me - I've not run away - like some - I will find happiness, and joy again - I will open my heart some day to share again -I'm not ready for that - I'm okay with being by myself for a while - I am me, I am not someones wife, someone who has to let go of my values, my beliefs for anyone else.
I know I will always have the support and love of my family, my children, my friends - that makes me valuable I value myself.
deleted_user
Well said! You are so very right. Congratulations on surviving another crisis in this mess we are all in. It has made you a stronger person. Way to go--I'm proud of your positive attitude!
pemdcat
So very well said, inspirational, any time you start getting down on yourself re-read this post. You are surely healing and moving on in the right direction. You can always lean on us as well. Have a great day you deserve it.
deleted_user
Well I got through another day relatively tearless - I'm ok - my kids have been with me - my mom and dad called - and invited us all out for supper - I know when its all said and done I am the lucky one. Thank you all for your kind support!
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I miss traveling with my husband. Has anyone found a specific site regarding cruising for widow/widowers or any sightseeing trips. Not interested in being with couples and kids,,,I realize a cruise ship will have a portion size of families and couples, but perhaps they also put together a part of the cruise ship for groups of widows/widowers????
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