
Divorce after Twenty years together Community Group
I want to start something for those of us that were married for a long long time. I think that we face a little different issues than those who were dating for a few years or even married for shorter period of time. Being married for so long we have older children some have grandkids dealing with teenagers and their reaction to the divorice empty nesters dating after 40...
It's been 8 months since I left and the only way I can begin to heal is if I have absolutely no contact with him. My kids are all over 18 and so it's not much of an issue. Every contact I have with him, rips open a new hole in my healing heart.
You have come to a good place. We are here to listen and help each other---hang in there and be strong!
thanks for writing it means alot.
I can tell you that I do not cry every day now like I used to. I honestly have seen much improvement most of the time with me. There is hope. Hang in there.
but, don't feel bad, we all wish things were different...hang in there
I think not talking to your husband is the best way for you to get over him. Talk to friends, family, or us! We are always here for you!
Wishing you peace and serenity!
All I I can say hang in there it will get better.
Wishing you strength, courage and wisdom.
I agree, staying in touch with him is the worst thing you can do if letting go is what you want to do. I was married 36 yrs, found out he had been screwing around with his secretary for the last 14 yrs, devastating. I did the same thing you are doing and we ended up back together. It lasted for 6yrs but I couldn't seem to move on as well as he thought I should have, and leave it in the past like it didn't happen which is what he wanted. As time went by I could see he was treating me with more disrespect, started getting ignorant etc, this from the Bastard that destroyed my heart, my family, our lives that could have been so beautiful. I finally left, signed the divorce papers last week. I your hope is to get back together then of course you have to keep the lines of communication open, but honestly tamisue if you want a split you can't keep doing what you are doing, it only kills another piece of your heart everytime you do it. Take some time to let yourself think about what is GOOD FOR YOU now and in the future. I know it is easier said then done, you will figure it out in your own time, take care of your heart sweetheart, I know your pain and it hurts like hell. Remember you are never alone. Praying for you tamisue