I haven't formally joined this group - trying to decide if I belong here or not. I hope you don't mind a question from someone struggling with the choice of divorce. I have been married for over 25 years, with the same man for nearly 29 years -- all of my adult life. Five days after our 25th wedding anniversary I discovered that he had been having a nearly year-long emotional and sexual affair with a former friend of mine. While the past couple of years have been a bit difficult for us I had always trusted him and never imagined that he could do such a thing. Nearly 8 months later and there are still days when I don't think that I will get over this, days when I can't imagine staying together after such a betrayal. For those of you who decided to end it after so many years together, how did you come to this difficult decision? This question isn't meant to cause pain, it's just that I haven't told anyone about the affair - not my family, not my friends. Besides my therapist, I have no one else to discuss this with but the understanding and sympathetic folks on DS.
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