Divorce after Twenty years together Community Group
I want to start something for those of us that were married for a long long time. I think that we face a little different issues than those who were dating for a few years or even married for shorter period of time. Being married for so long we have older children some have grandkids dealing with teenagers and their reaction to the divorice empty nesters dating after 40...
Well guys, the final papers are ready to be signed. I guess she will get what she wants after all. Hard to imagine that it has come to a point where I had to do this to save my own sanity. This is tearing me apart, but what other choice do I have. Live the rest of my life in a state of limbo and constant doubt? Anything would be better than that! I still love her, but she is not the same person that she was. Time to let it go.
sfsoccermom
You are correct, time to let go. You have tried. Sorry you are feeling so bad.
deleted_user
I'm so sorry you are having a hard day. They change. I don't know if it's a midlife crisis, just wanting someone new or what. The main thing is YOU will be better off. If you got back together, you will always wonder where she is. If she ran into friends and went out for lunch and forgot to call, you would have doubts. Do you ever want to live like that again? I don't think so. You have to let go. God bless you and your daughter.
deleted_user
I just signed my papers and my stbx just received them in the mail. I honestly thought he would call or something, but nothing. It's incredibly sad, 25 years down the drain. I know I would not have been able to trust him even if he did come back, his affair lasted over three years and when that ended he moved and now has a new girlfriend. It is time to let go, but it's hard. At least I know I would never want to go back to the way it was before he left. It was like living in hell! I will in some way always love him, too, but he is definitely not the person I thought he was! Be strong and hopefully with each passing day it will become a little easier!
deleted_user
Sucky day huh. I'm sorry. It looks like we all are rowing the same boat - we love those who no longer want us. YUK. I just keep trying to remember the bad times, trouble is - the bad times weren't that bad. I mean they were at the time, but looking back there were so many more good times. I really truly believe my H and I are meant to be together - trouble is, he doesn't, or if he does his pride won't let him admit it so that's what I need to focus on to heal. Please take care and just take it a breath at a time. Hugs to you.
deleted_user
Waiting on my papers too!! I have been seperated 5 yrs now and it STILL hurts. I gotta get some relief cause she is not the same person either. Be encouraged!
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Haven't had any communication with STBX in over a month and that was only me sending a happy b-day text to him (he sent me one so I felt obligated). He had been texting me almost every week to see what was going on with the divorce papers and now that he has them, I probably won't hear from him again. So sad after spending 23 years together, that now I don't exist. I think that is the hardest part of all of this, that our life together was so easily forgotten.
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