It has been almost 1 year and 10 months since my husband left me. It was the most painful thing I have ever been through. We have a legal separation agreement and he moved last Nov. to WA state. We have decided to stay separated for the time being and hold off on the divorce. I am o.k. with that, and actually, it is what I want. Religion and finances are my main reasons for staying married. I will never remarry again, and don't even plan on dating. I am pretty much content with my life and don't feel anger over it anymore, just sadness and even those feelings don't hit as hard as they used to. People say I need to divorce to have closure.I don't think there is closure, I mean how do you close 25 years of your life? Do you put them in a box and throw it up on a shelf in your closet? I don't think so. Ninty-nine percent of the people who tell me this haven't been through this so I think it is easy for them to say I should divorce. I can't waste any more time on the negative feelings, the only one who will lose is me. I will never forget what happened, but I can forgive to the point where I can be cordial and friendly towards him. I attended Divorce Care and got so much out of it and I do understand (finally)what they meant by forgiving and reconciling (does not mean getting back together). Anyway, I was just wondering if anyone else feels like I do.
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