Divorce after Twenty years together Community Group
I want to start something for those of us that were married for a long long time. I think that we face a little different issues than those who were dating for a few years or even married for shorter period of time. Being married for so long we have older children some have grandkids dealing with teenagers and their reaction to the divorice empty nesters dating after 40...
I was talking with a friend tonight and I realized something, I am done being a victim. I will tell you all what I told him, being the victim had itd had its role, but not any longer I am fighting now, I owe it to me, I owe it to the girls and I owe it to the people that have believed and had faith in me even when I had none in myself.
I dont think I am magically healed, I think I have a long road ahead of me...But I wont travel that road staring down at the ground because I am afraid any longer..No, from now on I will look up, I will look ahead and know that I have done the best I could and I am not defined by my mistakes and by choices made for me or by me, I will be defined by what I do with those mistakes and choices, how I learn and grow from them, how I can hopefully help others because of the mistakes and choices.
We all have choices to make and now I am chosing to not be a victim anymore!
I dont think I am magically healed, I think I have a long road ahead of me...But I wont travel that road staring down at the ground because I am afraid any longer..No, from now on I will look up, I will look ahead and know that I have done the best I could and I am not defined by my mistakes and by choices made for me or by me, I will be defined by what I do with those mistakes and choices, how I learn and grow from them, how I can hopefully help others because of the mistakes and choices.
We all have choices to make and now I am chosing to not be a victim anymore!
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Since the day that I was born
There were voices
That told me right from wrong
If I had listened
No I wouldn't be here today
Living and dying
With the choices I made"
You are making the choice to move on, to hold your head up, your eyes on the horizon, to see a better, brighter day.....To live again... they're going to be cloudy, stormy days but by keeping your head up, your eyes open you can dodge the bigger puddles, and keep moving.......I take my hat off to you , I think you are truly (to coin a phrase from the Cincinnati Reds broadcaster) rounding third and heading home!!!I think you have rounded the corner, and heading for a better day....AJJ
Keep you forward steps, my friend!
Love and hugs to you!
Sld1 said something to me not that long ago - she said something like "he doesn't have the power to break you". This now applies to you too. Your stbx doesn't have the power to break your spirit from this day forward. You have taken back control of your life and your destiny. You can now look forward to better days ahead and know that not only do you deserve them, you will have them. What an awesome feeling that is.
You've climbed that mountain and now it's all downhill from here. The days will be easier and better because you have chosen to look ahead and not be the victim any more.
Big hugs and love to you my friend. I'll be right there walking beside you.
I really like lcookie's ""life is what you make it". I choose to make what's left of mine a wonderful journey through this world. There is also a saying that attitude is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. Well, I think we all need to decide that our reaction to what happened to us will be a positive one and let's all go out there and make a great life for ourselves. Let's all remember that we were all born to be individuals and not just part of a couple."
Here Here! I am choosing to respond to this major life event with a positive attitude. I may have tears and grieve the dream that was lost, but I am going to look forward to my new healthier, happier life. I will live with grace, strength, love, and not let fear and negativity rule my life. I am a good person who is smart, beautiful, fun, and loved by many. I will have a great life!
Cheers to Us,
Jeane
Good for you Missiann