I have been married for over 23+years [together 25+yrs] at the beginning of december he told me he was leaving me,to say i was devastated is really an understatement! i thought i knew this man,i thought we,d grow old together sadly it wasen,t meant to be,what he didn,t tell me at first was that he was e-mailing a woman who,d gone to the same school as him,just before he left me he asked if i minded him going to his first school reunion,of course i said i didn,t mind as he has always been very honest with me,i never in a million years thought my husband would ever lie to me or hurt me,he went to his reunion and he was really happy and wanted me to know all about it and i was happy for him and listened,however within ten minutes he was snapping at me and being nasty [this had been going on since march last year i thought it was due to stress] well to cut a long story short he finally admitted he,d been e-mailing another woman when he came back from the reunion he kept talking about a lady called michelle so i guessed it was her,he told me at first that he wanted to move out as living with me was hard work,i was gutted i wanted to die,i wanted my special husband who had always been a gentle giant to tell me it was just a bad nightmare,and he wasen,t gonna leave me,but he didn,t and believe it or not i helped him furnish his new flat etc,then two week,s before christmas he told me she was coming over to live with him that was it! he,d not only lied to me he had hurt me so bad that i was a total mess,[i am fighting cancer as well as other major health issues]he came round christmas day to be honest he might as well just stayed away, our christmas had been ruined,two weeks ago he told me she was coming over and as promised he was allowing her to move in with him[he,s got a one bedroomed flat] so a week and a day ago she came to live with him,i had hoped that he wouldn,t ever hurt me this bad but he did,i was rushed here [i,m in hospital] and our son callum told me that his whore [her!] and him wanted him to go out with for a drink,my son went ballistic and put his fist,s through two of my door,s which he has now had repaired he also left his father in no doubt that he doe,s not want to meet her,since all this started i have lost weight i have now gotta another cancer back and cuz i,ve got no kidneys i am also have dialysis,last night he came to see me and told me that this whore is arguing alot with him [like i care NOT!] and she wants two of her kid,s to visit [she,s married with three kid,s her old man is supposed to be a womaniser but it didn,t bother her that my husband was married!] well when i looked at my husband he looked very sick,we may no longer be together but i must admit i am a little worried about his health plus he hardly knows this woman,it,s too late for us now but i want him to be happy,i am however still devastated but i cannot ever have him back because i would never ever trust him again, because that is how his relationship started they started talking online at my husbands work,i think it,s very sad that he,s left me because he couldn,t have sex on tap,i am in acute chronic pain 24.7 i have cancer and am undergoing treatment as well as dialysis,i can,t let him hurt me anymore and although he doesn,t wanna divorce,i have now started divorce proceedings, i can,t understand what i did so very wrong for him to do this to me? i,m not saying i,m perfect but why has he done this? why?
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