I figure I can look at my 25 yr marriage in one of two ways. The first at having failed at sustaining a 25 year marriage that had its share of problems or the fact that I sustained a marriage that had problems for 25 yrs. I prefer the latter. I refuse to feel like a failure. We had many many great times together. We had 3 beautiful ,successful children together. We were able to realize many of our goals and dreams together. I've had my time of being pissed off, wanting revenge, wanting to get back together, etc. It hasn't gotten me anywhere. I did not waste 25 yrs of my life. I grew up and gained valuable life experiance in those 25 yrs that has made me the person that I am today. We have been separated for a yr and 3 months. That first year he still lived in the house with us. I did a lot of mourning and whining. When he left I was left with looking at things from a different perspective. The pressure was off. Everything in the house calmed down and I was able to think clearly for the first time in a long time. He initiated the breakup. I didn't want it. Now I think it was the best thing for me. I can't wait to see what the future brings...It's going to be good!!
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