I have to admit, I know where you're coming from I was the same. Your motivation has to come from within. You have to WANT to change. I was sitting down one day and it just hit me....I can't go on the way I have been. I have to change my life/lifestyle. I tried to visualise the way that I wanted to be living my life in the future, and I always saw a fit and healthy and active me. Running around chasing pets and my future children, doing sporty things... LIVING life. Meanwhile there I was, sitting on the lounge, watching dvd's and eating chips. I didn't want to be that person. I want to be the one that I actually see myself as.... and the responsibility for that rests solely with me.

You just need to find your motivation. What inspires you? Where do you want to go in life? What quality of life do you see yourself having?

When you find something that will give you your inner motivation - the rest (the cooking and the exercise) really isn't that hard. Because you WANT to do it!

(That's what I've found happened with me anyway - and I still have a LONG way to go)

Good luck :-)

Why dont you try taking baby steps, make one small change a day or week, which ever suits you, but it needs to be your choice, you need to want to change. Laziness was my problem, I dont know why, because I like exercising and feel so much better when I am healthier. The more you do, the more energy you have. For me I made a choice and I choose everyday to follow through with that choice, because I really want to be fit, healthy, thinner and enjoy my life, it is not always easy, sometimes I have to talk myself into it, but I always enjoy it, once I get started (the hardest part) and feel so much better afterwards. You dont need to run a marathon or work at the gym for hours, just move, every chance you get, move, it all adds up and makes a difference. Good Luck!

I so get it...I have become very lazy this last year as I recouperated..(see my page).
I am finally ready so...the first step is the hardest. Do you have a Curves near you? It is a commitment..it takes only 30 min per day and it is FUN!!! It is a great way to push off onto your new lifestyle of "doing better". Start with positive statements & positive thoughts that you want to stand on & most of all prayer. God wants you to be all that you want to be. He is faithful...ask Him each time you are tempted to cheat...ask him for more strength...he is so GOOD!!!!

you have to force yourself to. Make plans with someone else to take a walk or something.

What I do is tell my kids we will go for a walk and then there is no getting out of it! Plus after you start being a little more active, you will be more energetic and look forward to those walks or workouts.

You might try the "The Beck Diet Solution" and workbook by Dr. Judith Beck. Beck's father invented cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), which is highly effective at treating many psychological conditions and behavioral problems. She applied the concepts of CBT to weight loss to help people like you (and me!) cope with attitudes and behaviors that keep us from sticking to our plans.

The book has tooks for staying committed and for identifying self-defeating attitudes and behaviors and tools for sticking to decisions. It works with any diet or exercise plan--the point is overcoming the mental blocks that are holding you back.

Good luck!

Thanks for the advice.... i hope I can follow thru on my new lifestyle!