Diets & Weight Maintenance Support Group
Chat about how well your latest diet is -- or is not -- working. This group is a great place to find support and accountability as well as share success stories and valuable lessons with the community. From where to start to weekly weigh-ins, get help from others to reach your dieting and weight maintenance goals.
I was talking to someone today and they were asking why I was eating a fruit salad for my lunch and I said I was trying to lose a bit of weight. Like Most people these days no big deal and she said to me. You used to quite a lot smaller didnt you. I was so shocked that she said that I couldnt speak I think of loads of stuff I should have siad now. I did used to be a size 12 and now am a 16 english size. I am no Kate Moss but I am 5 foot 11 and think I still look smart and have nice colthes. Point is she really shouls have said that and it really hasnt helped. I am losing weight and quite enjoyting it. Even if I thought that about someone I wouldnt say it its so rude. It made me feel like she thought I was the size of a house. Why are people so cruel. I am also trying for a baby and havnt had much luck so losing weight is what I am doing to help this and comment like this hurt on top of the hurt I feel about not getting pg and blaming myslef for putting weight on. Wish people would think before they speak.
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
Dont let it stop you from reaching your goal. Although the comment hurt you at the time, in the end does their opinion really count.
I know what you mean about loosing weight to get pregnant, I lost 30 lbs before i got pregnant 4 years ago, anb because i was so over weight even after 30 lbs, i only gained like 12 lbs my whole pregnancy! so i was lighter when i gave birth than when i got pregnant!
It is sad because talk negative about overweight ppl, they don't realise that one day their kids,grandkids,or even themselves may be more obese than that over weight person could ever be. they wouldnt want anyone doing/saying that to them so why do it to us? just keep eating right and taking care of yourself. Don't let that negative get to you.
I had a male friend who told me I was a "7," but I could be an 8 or 9 if I toned up. That was BEFORE I gained an extra 20 pounds I can't work off for the life of me.
The rudest comments I hear these days are actually about other people. My boyfriend would never insult me directly, but he'll point to a woman near my size and comment about how she is too fat to wear her outfit! Or he'll point to a woman eating something unhealthy and make derogatory remarks about how some women think it is just okay to plump up after they are married. He claims to be fully ignorant of how hurtful these comments can be, but it's really hard not to take anti-fat comments personally when you yourself are overweight!
You dont owe anyone an explanation for your size. I tried for years to get pregnant and weight loss was the last thing on my mind. I embrassed my curves and told ppl I was big and beautiful. Sometimes when you have the confidence behind you they learn not to mess with you about it.
Perhaps if she says something else to you, you can politely point out to her that you appreciate her concerns for your well being but, it would be great if she would keep her comments to herself. That this is a sensitive matter to you and you dont really like to talk about it at work.
I had a similar situation that still winds me up even now to think about:
I went shopping with a friend who, looking back, was a size 8 and thought she was the hottest thing on earth.
I was really excited because I had found the perfect tankini top and shorts for the summer. More flattering than a swimming costume but still covering my belly.
When I asked my friend if she thought it was ok, she said to me, "well to be honest if I was your size I would try to cover up as much of my body as possible."
I can still remember just how much that comment crushed me. I bought the tankini but I think I've only worn it once.