
Diets & Weight Maintenance Support Group
Chat about how well your latest diet is -- or is not -- working. This group is a great place to find support and accountability as well as share success stories and valuable lessons with the community. From where to start to weekly weigh-ins, get help from others to reach your dieting and weight maintenance goals.

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I just joined this website and community and thought I would say hi. I have about 70lbs to lose which feels like forever. I had foot surgery last week so I'm not really able to exercise with makes this really hard. I'm trying to eat healthier but I can't seem to stick to it. My husband can eat whatever he wants and doesn't understand how I feel. He's always wanting to order pizza and stuff even when he knows I'm dieting and lately I have no willpower to say no. I use every excuse not to diet or to eat what I want....(I've had a bad day, I'm stressed out) I wish I could have more willpower to stick to something and not give in to temptation. I hate being at the weight I am it's depressing and makes me not want to do anything. I refuse to buy any more clothes because I'm ashamed of the size and don't want to go any larger. I could really use some supportive friends and motivation. What has worked for all of you? Anyone looking for some friends to keep eachother motivated and on track. Well it's nice to meet you all. Good luck on your goals.
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You say you struggle with will power. I do too. My boyfriend loves to eat, loves to dine out and loves desert! Now I love him so we often are together eating more than we should. I try to cut back on servings, eat only 1/2 of something rather than the whole plate, and I try to convince him to eat in more so I can control portion sizes. Just keep trying...don't give up. Sooner or later the scale will be going down and you will have more incentive to ramp up that will power.
Good luck to you. Stay strong and you will be successful!
Happy losing! :0)
Motivation is indeed a pain in the butt - my advice to you is to read the forums. You will find lots of hints and tips there and find out what is working for other people. If you are struggling to diet alone then maybe you could join a forum challenge? There are a few going on right now, with groups of members helping eachother along and weighing in at the same time, so it gives a little accountability.
Hope that helps and see you around!
K.x.x.
I have started the endevour again today to shift (at first) 15lbs (the weight of my 5 month old daughter) and then I will set more goals from there.
I am a terrible choc-a-holic. My partner has to hide his stash of chocolate or biscuits really well so that I dont binge on them. Going to the shops is fatal as I usually succombe, I have zero will power. I am planning to substitute this fix for low cal chocolate drink (40 cals per cup) so that I don't feel too deprived.
My goal is to get into some of my pre-pregnancy clothes - that would make me very happy.
Would love to keep in touch with anyone climbing the same hill. :0) Taggie
Everyone who is alive today has made an incredible evolutionary journey through times of very little food. We have a built-in need to want to store fat for the times of lean. What happens now, particularly in the United States, is there are no times of lean. We can get food at all hours of the day and mostly we do.
So understanding that part of what is driving us is a biological imperative may help you be kinder to yourself. This does not mean, of course, that you should throw up your hands and decide that you have no control whatsoever and should then eat pizza (which unfortunately is one of my favorite foods) and dessert any chance you can.
You do have control over your immediate environment. For instance, if it is not in the house, then late at night when you get the "bingies" (this is my weakest time, I don't know about you) you won't find anything to binge on. It is more likely that if you have to make an effort to do so, like go out to a 24-hour store at midnight to get what you are craving you will have second thoughts and decide that sleep will do just as well.
Also, is there any possibility of your husband supporting you by not eating these tempting foods while he is around you? He could have the pizza or whatever for lunch while he is at work and not for dinner. Right now, you need to have a "safe house" with no temptations around so that you don't have to rely on willpower alone while you watch your husband eat some of your favorite foods in front of you. Your body's evolutionary "memory" will make it very hard to resist these foods so it is better not to be surrounded by them, at least at first.
I hope this is helpful! Love, kindness, and understanding is always the answer.