Hey, if you really want to lose weight you can do it. The man that you're with sounds really great and that is how he should feel about you. Sex can be ebarrassing for a lot of people (not that I know; I'm only 14) but sometimes I evenjust get embarassed talking to a boy. Talk to your doctor or get a nutritionist/personal trainer and they should be able to help you out. You won't let anyone accept you until you accept yourself; trust me, that's where I am now. Everyone feels lost in their body or world sometimes. I've never told anyone this but, i don't even feel like i belong in this world, this day and age. The way people are now is sick and I don't like this world. i honestly wish i could live in The Lord of the Rings! how lame is that right? Sex and love doesn't mean anything to anyone antmore; neither does marriage. Everyone just wants sex with random people, people just don't care anymore no one cares about anyone else's feelings. At 14 I've lost about 14 lbs and i have another 14 to go. i'm starting up track so that should help. if i can do it, you can. Don't give up and maybe try to get a friend to do it with you. I'm here for you if you ever need me. let me know how it goes!

I have a couple suggestions but first I have to say that even if you do not lose the weight, you definitely can get into better shape.
One thing that helps alot of people is water exercising. If you can look into classes at the Y or any indoor pool near you, you could have some fun and get into shape. While I have not done any of it, both my mother and grandmother attended classes in the water, and both of them were over 50 at the time. I think my grandmother was close to 80 when she did water exercising. She also rode an exercise bike in the senior's home when she was around 90!
Don't let age stop you from having some fun getting healthy.

Believe it or not, just walking alot can help you lose weight and get into better shape. I knew one female who was just a bit younger than you but also diabetic and she lost close to 20lbs just in daily walks. Why not see if the man you are with would like to accompany you on some walks around the neighborhood; it's healthy, free, and a great stress reliever.
Instead of worrying about lose skin with a weight loss, you should think more about your heart working hard because of any excess weight. Your skin is pretty elastic so if you lose the weight slowly and do some exercising along with a healthy diet, you will find that you feel more energetic and that your skin still has a bit of stretch to it.
If you wanted to lose something like 100lbs then you may have some concerns about excess skin, but 30lbs sounds like a reachable goal.

Be sure to consult your dr for some tips and advice on any things that you should avoid. Start small by cutting out the bad foods in your diet and by getting more active. If you have access to a Y or gym near you, you could also see a trainer for one session to get you started on a good exercise plan that suits you.
If you don't want to go the gym route, there are plenty of online sites that give you some good exercises which can be done in your own home. The walking is the best start as it's free and fun, or the water classes are great for all over exercising including your skin toning.

Good luck in whatever you do.

Yes you can lose weight, control your blood sugar, regain the love you have had for your body. I a diabetic, I started my weight lose at 430 pound, I have A Fib and Hight blood pressure and...... I could go on. My weight is now 235, A1C is 5.2 and blood pressure is 92/56. during this time I have gone through major life changes including the change. You can do this too get up every day and take it one meal at a time, find a good gym and GO 3 to 4 times a week. Get all the not healthy foods out of your house YES even if you have other living with you it will do them good also. LOVE yourself like you have never done so before. Check you blood sugar at least 3 to 4 times a day. Well that should get you started. Don't be afraid it will get so much better.

Jeanny - you can loose the weight. First and for most, you need to focus on the positives right now. I can name a couple of unhappy women because they are either single or are in a relationship that is not in their best interest. I can also think of a few friends that cant loose the the weight because of other issues. But you can, and you have a man that loves you. All you have to do is remain focused. When you are ready to commit to a plan, you will do just that. If i can help you in any way let me know. I too am on the weight loss journey.