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I have made a choice to Give Up

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Hello to my friends and anyone who is new here. I thought I would write a speech...but then I realized how unappropriate....(Heather Mills...Lol)

Anyway I have come to the discission to just throw my cards in. My Mom just came home from Mary Free Bed. It is a rehabilitation hospital in Mi. She had a stroke the day before Easter.
We found out the stroke was mainly caused by her diabetes and that she is a smoker.

I have thrown in the towel. Since I have learned my Mom was diabetic... I have tried to help her. She could've died.. and if she continues on with her habits she will... Since she has been home her diet hasn't changed and she is still smoking.

So tomorrow I am going to buy her a carton of
Cigs and a dozen donuts.... Let's just see what she wants more. I am tired of trying to save someone who won't make an effort to save herself... I know it's my MoM and that is what makes it worse. She wants to give up .... so can I.
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Would your Mom give up on you if the situation were reversed?
I understand your frustration, and the desire to throw in the towel, but giving your Mom smokes and major carb/sugar infusions will not make you feel better or less frustrated. Give her time to deal with the depression and denial, and continue with your support. Support is supposed to be what Family's all about, right?
The fact that she wants to give up is a symptom of that depression and frustration. If you give up as well, she'll have no hope at all. Find a therapist, group or other local in-person support system before you give it all up.
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We're only responsible for our own actions, not the actions of others. Please don't buy your mom anything unhealthy. I'm afraid you'll regret it. You also can't change someone else. It has to come from them. Just love her anyway and be encouraging. I'm so sorry for what you are experiencing. It's really hard for you to watch your mother harm herself.
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that gos back to the old sayings "u can lead a horse to water, but u cant make it drink"...
sorry to hear about all ur troubles.. im a smoker.. and i have tried so hard to stop..
i remember when i was younger and thought smoking was "cool"... and my dad went and bought me lots of cigs and made me smoke them in front of him.. everytime i wanted one.. that made me change my mind then...
people cant be helped if they dont want it.. im learning that now with my kids/hubby...
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When I said I will buy her a carton of cigarettes and a dozen donuts, I would not actually do that... My point is that I might as well.

I am not giving up... I am just letting her make her own decisions. I give my input. She can take my advice or leave it so far she has chose to leave it.

For instance, there is Splenda in the house and there is Sugar. I use Splenda. I am not diabetic but it's better. Every morning she grabs the sugar. My family says for me to throw out everything unhealthy... example sugar. These people don't have to live with her.
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Montreal..

If you knew the whole situation you would understand. I am done with this whole thing. I am putting up ultimatums..What do you think about that.?
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You asked what I think...here it is: Ultimatums do not work. They don't solve anything, they create resentment, they are a complete block to communication, and they encourage those given the ultimatum to become more introverted and feel a lack of support from those around them. Be a grown-up, lend your support, express your frustration, and let her do what she's going to anyway. You're right when you say I don't know the whole situation, but the facts of your case will not change the uselessness of ultimatums.
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