
Depression Support Group
Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Do you think it's healthier to take responsibility for things that have gone/are going wrong in your life or do you think it'ss healthier to look outside yourself for the reasons?
The downside to accepting blame is that you may end up unnecessarily blaming yourself for everything.
The downside to looking outside yourself is that a feeling of lack of control can cause you to adopt a victim mentality and make you feel like you have no control.
The downside to accepting blame is that you may end up unnecessarily blaming yourself for everything.
The downside to looking outside yourself is that a feeling of lack of control can cause you to adopt a victim mentality and make you feel like you have no control.
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as you long as you learn you cannot blame yourself..
When its a grey area as to who is to blame its best to just let it go.
I think we could all beat ourselves up the whole day long but what does that do but make us feel worse.
And victim mentality is a sad place to be,I was a victim and now I am more then a surviver, thats the mentality I like to keep.
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I hope it helps to say to that somethings just happen to us because we are in the wrong place at the wrong time and sometimes good things happen to us because we are in a good place at the time. LOL and that one my friend yu will always question. LOL:)
Ok so what about this. You go out with some friends and you're very friendly to everyone but one of the people is repeatedly unfriendly to you.
Now I know I know, it's their problem, we deserve better etc but what if it's a few people that dont seem to think much of you and cant even be bothered to make conversation with you?
Is it all them or is there something wrong with you?
especially if they don't want to open up and talk to yu about what bothers them.
in that case, ignore right back and be unfriendly right back. but understand too that some ppl want yu to make the first move to be friendly and accept them before they are friendly to yu? I don't know the exact situation, but it is there problem. and don't feel like its yur fault at all.
You see I blame myself, I think i must be boring, they think I'm too stupid to talk to, they dont care about what i think or feel. But sometimes I think, well, i always have something to chat about and maybe if they cant up with some decent converstaion, maybe it's jsut coz they're boring?
But then ofcourse they talk to others so I'm right back to blaming myself.