your in pain, can I help?

What's up hun,need to talk?xx

I just don't understand why we (the victims) have to suffer for what our predators do to us - and why they will never pay?

Why give him so much power???You have decided to allow it to happen, you need to decide to take it back. NOBODY is worth it...

having a broken heart is no fun, and grieving the loss of a love sux

You ask where the justice is...it's in you NOT letting him ruin your life for you. It's in getting on with your own life as he has his. You will find justice when you stop "sitting" (your own words) and actively search for your path without him and his baggage standing in your way. Blessings and hugs to you.

i'm trying so hard, I'm in therapy, I'm starting school again, I'm volunteering, doing more meditating, even learning Yoga and how to crochet! I guess sitting wasn't the right word. I go to church every week I'm doing everything I'm suppose to but I still dream of him every night -

so it's like every night I get raped again! I'm trying so hard to keep pulling and not letting him have the power but I just don't know where else to turn or what to do!

I don't know you enough to know exactly what's going on, but as long as you keep giving him the power to hurt you, you won't be free of the pain. You have to move ahead, say to hell with the past, be you and look to the future. I know that's kind of vague, but, like I said, I don't know the specifics of what's happened to you. I did take a quick look at your profile and saw you are very young and have a long future ahead of you that can hold so much happiness if you reach out and grab it.

thanks, I'm trying - I try surrounding myself with everything that makes me happy. But my views on life are all skewed now and I'm more paranoid and less social - I guess I should have put in that bulletin that i was raped by the guy I'm talking about - it's not like was just a relationship gone bad - I was assualted and then raped

O. A trauma like that is hard to get past. Particulalry since it sounds like you had a relationship with him before you were assaultedso it was a betrayal of trust on top of the horror of everything else. All I can think of is for you to talk abouti trying to get it out. I'm sorry I'm not much help for you. :(

Broken hearts take time to become unbroken. But the healing time is shortened by working on your own depression and moving on. But from my experience, that is easier said than done. But it must be done somehow. jreb the formerly broken-hearted.

I hate what he did to you...anger is sometimes motivating, and you can be sad about it.

I saw this special on tv, about foster kids

one boy had been through the wringer in his short life

His new mom told him he was allowed so many minutes of the day to feel sorry for himself, then he had to get on with it....I thought that was very wise

Maybe allowing yourself sometime to grieve, feel bad about yourself, for say twenty minutes a day, then you must stop yourself from dwelling on it and carry on with all the busy stuff you are already doing

here's a big HUG for your sorrow, anger, pain and loss

What steps did the law take when you reported the rape and assault to them?

I went to the police after he called me and told me he was waiting for me outside of my apartment and told me he was going to kill us both so he could have me. They went and FORCIBLY removed him and even had us stay in a hotel for 3 nights - BUT YET THEY TOLD ME NOT TO REPORT IT BECAUSE IT WOULD JUST AGGRAVATE HIM MORE!!!

That's weird that they would tell you not to report it again.

If he has used threatening terms about killing you then this in itself is an offence and deemed as "threatening to kill" (well at least it is here in NZ)

Can you not speak to the CIB (I think the US equivalent is the CIA) rather than the local cop shop?