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why cant ppl just let go

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Just gunna moan on a while ..lol

Ok went to my daughters friday night as she was having her hair cut, and i said i would high lite it for her...
so i i went hubby in tow as i did not want to walk on my own ..

got there was ok... her hair looked lovely... they were drinking so i had 1 with them.

then when we were all sat down just chatting having a nice time... emma just wanted to ralk about me and why i was not bubbley anymore..
amy my daughter said leave it emma.. but she just went on and on..
i ended up in tears and went home feeling so bad.

why cant ppl just leave it when u dont want to talk..
i know she cares but at that time i just did not want to tell her why and the in and outs of my life my background and more..
do u all understand that?

anyways to top it off.. i could not sleep and have felt alfull all wkend..
woke today still feeling bad.

till feel bad that i wouldent open up to her but i just did not want everyone looking and saying omg she has gone mad....

anyways thats it .. sorry for moaning on

Allixxxx
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I know what you mean and would feel the same way.
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I'm with you on this one. Even when I tell them I don't feel like talking about things at the moment, they ask why??...I just can't win sometimes.
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Im with u on that one ...

hope ur ok .. hugs ALLIX
ChiTownBear
ChiTownBear
Some people show their support in a variety of ways. While we dont want to talk about it then, at least we get a good idea of who we can talk to when we are ready.

When you are ready to talk to someone, maybe you can now just reach out and say, remember when you mentioned ... and then talk to them.

They'll be there when you are ready, even if they seem pushy now.
deleted_user
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OHH thks i never really thought of it like that..

she is a gd friend and i know she is there when ever i need her..
but u just made really good sense thks again
hugs Allix
deleted_user
deleted_user
i can totally under stand,,,,,hence the reason i never want to leave the house...hugssss for you my friend ......i wonder if they will ever get it
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mice. i like the positive spin. personally, i tlak a lot, about everything, so sometimes i expect others to do the same.
deleted_user
deleted_user
there is another post about how people don't want to hear us talk

I don't understand it either, maybe not reading our cues?
ChiTownBear
ChiTownBear
some people dont do cues ... I like to think I am pretty perceptive and notice things like that. I then expect others to be the same, but I have found out, they arent. They just dont even look for cues. They expect when you have an issue, you will come to them, otherwise everything must be Ok. nothing wrong with them or that, that is just how they are.

Not everyone can be as perceptive and inline like us. :)
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:)
mynameisD
mynameisD
You are not alone in this one. I wish I had a good answer to tell you to make people back off. The reality is that sometimes we just don't want to talk about it. Or we get in the what-difference-would-talking-about-it-make-anyway. Also, most time, I don't want people telling me what to do or how to act to make me all better again. So it is easier to not talk about it. You are not alone at all
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I understand Amy is your daughter but don't know who Emma is. However and regardless of who she is you did not want to discuss your illness with her or with anyone at the time. When people start in on me like that I simply tell them "Right now is not a good time to discuss that" and if that doesn't work I say "That is not a subject that is open for discussion right now" That almost always works.
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