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when you become your disorder

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Just so you all know I DID post this in the other community but there is usually a lot of fedback here so I'm posting it again, hope you all don't mind...


Ok so I have borderline presonality disorder and up until this past year I never even knew what it meant. I did reaserch and googled and all kinds of junk trying to figure out what it means and if I really do have it. It turns out that the doctors were right in my diagnosis. I fit the general description. But now I have a problem. I tried explaining to my best friend and my room mate that a lot of my actions come from bdp. I printed up information on it and gave it to Anthony to read so he would understand better cause I can be hard to live with at times. And talked to my bf about it, the reactions I got from them sucked. Anthony refused to read anything cause he feels I'm using this as an excuse for my behavior, or a way to "walk all over him" and get away with it, and Karla just was like just cause you have this doesn't mean you are this. DAH!! I was just trying to say look I have bdp and this is why I do or say things, it just fits the criteria, and I'm doing the best I can in my theropy to adress it.
Does anyone feel like they are still mis judged that suffer from this...is it true that even though I feel I'm getting help I've just sunk into this disorder?.....I'm just so bummed cause every action I take is so bdp and I don't know how to change it. Any comments or advise would be awsome - thanks
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I have bpd and i tell ya. really don't know much about it so i do nothing. there's no meds for it as far as i know. so i suffer.
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It's a tough line to draw. I can see where your friends are coming from in that they don't want you to use your disorder as an excuse. It doesn't give someone "permission" to do something. That being said, it does play a big part in your actions. It can take the impulsive road, and it's hard to control. I think instead of using the phrase "this is WHY I do something" turn it around, "I didn't think because my disorder gets in the way" or something. Good luck girl. Remember there are people who understand.
starfish
starfish
Illneeses like borderline personality disorder need to be treated with therapy. It is a matter of learning what thought processes hang you up, and how to change them. It is difficult work, but helps you and those around you live happier.
Unfortunately, those around you right now, who you are describing, don't seem to be helping you much, because they aren't acknowledging that you are taking steps to find out about your illness, which is the first step in doing something about it.
What they have told you just indicates thier blindness, because everyone has something they could impove on.
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I liked what you said WILDWINGS about attempting to refrase my words, and STARFISH about my friends just being blindsided, I'm at a loss right now. I thought people I knew would be proud of me for looking this stuff up seeing that I truely understand what I put them through at times ,and I do go to theropy twice a month, I cant afford more. At least with depression I have my medicine and the trich doesn't affect anyone but myself, but bpd is so hard I can't just reset my brain or redue the past 26 years.
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Sorry I'm bumping this back up...Come on guys I want to know if I'm alone on this one, or if there is any more advice.
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I'm very proud of you that you've done the research and helped yourself to discover what you may be able to do about it, that takes a lot of strength on its own. When I was first diagnosed with depression my friends and family were all like, "We're always here for you, we love you," and all that sh!t, but after a few weeks it was, "OK you're milking it now, we're bored, you're just lazy, you're a hypochondriac." It's hurtful and makes me feel worse. I know this isn't that helpful in advising you but I just wanted to tell you that I'm proud of you and I know how you're feeling xxx
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