Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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When people say you have nothing to be sad about.

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I dont really like talking about my depression... But sometimes I tell friends because my depression gets in the way of something and I really dont want to lie about it.

So i will share what happend and usually they are there and really caring but some friends tell me stuff like,

"you ever think about people that have nothing?" or something like,
"just get on with your life and cheer up".

I hate it when people say that because I ALWAYS think about why I am feeling sad when I do have a lot of things that people dont have.. for instance im on the internet right now... When people pull that card I dont know what to say!


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What am i suppose to say when people say just get on with your life and stuff? I always get the vibe that people think depression is like something that isnt a serious issue.
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i dont get it, some of my friends are like everyone gets "depressed". like when i explained to him what was wrong with me he sorta just argued back and tried making the point that everyone is down or some shit.. i dont know man.. meh
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Of course it's a serious issue. It can be life and death. Just because people don't truly understand doesn't mean it's not important.
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Most people think that depression is a state of mind. They say things like snap out of it or whatever. If it was that simple, there would be no depression in this world. Most people who tell you those things don't have a clue what real depression is. I've had it for most of my life and I sympathize with what you're going through. Ignorance on some people's part can be very hurtful to us that know what depression really is.
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i always say something like 'if it was the easy dont you think i would have done it by now??' people think that we can just snap out of it, or will ourselves back to happiness and as we all know its not like that. but others dont understand it....if you have never been that far down you have no idea what its like....most people mean well they just dont know what to say so they say something stupid like that....just know that here, we all understand how difficult it is for you...your not alone..lots of people here to help you through.....
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i hate it. i try telling them some of the things you guys just mentioned. i try explaining but it just doesnt seem to get through to them. they will usually retort with something like, i also feel down sometimes. just snap out of it and keep going... sometimes i wish they could just understand what i / we are going through..
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A lot of people confuse depression with "the blues", and think they are one and the same.

Unless they are willing to learn about the illness it is very difficult to try to get someone to understand.
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I hate it when they say, about what?
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Tell them it is a serious medical condition that involve chemical imbalances in the Brain and if they don't know what they are talking about then they should read a Book on Depression.
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Tell them it is a serious medical condition that involve chemical imbalances in the Brain and if they don't know what they are talking about then they should read a Book on Depression.
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No one would choose to feel this way. I know. Hugs and best wishes to you. Mishka.
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I know exactly what you mean....they do not understand. It's very difficult every day. Just know that we know the truth, and we are here for you. We understand.
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I've always known that my friends are part of what keeps me going.. I've told them what I'm going through before and they don't tell me to snap out of it, they try to cheer me up. I love them so much.
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just my opinion.

*SIGH*

i take offense when people compare depression to serious problems. ive dealt with depression all my life. everything is a struggle. but that doesnt stop me from still going out and doing what needs to be done.
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