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ok watching this specail on tv about kids out of control, when is it when the kid had the right to tell the parent what they are going to do. kids need dsicpline and know that there are boundaries. i am on who does not think a pop on the butt, is not abuse, but never do it when angry, what is going to happen to this generation. again i said a pop on the but not a beating there is a difference, also do not do it when angry
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If no disipline is shown to them then they cannot be expected to have it themselves.
I have pity for those parents who have tried their best and are being bossed around by their children.
I agree that kids need discipline and they need to know boundaries. But I never hit or even popped my child on the butt to let her know what they were.
I talk to her constantly.
When she asks me why things are a certain way, I have a policy of NEVER saying "Because I said so." I think that, though we must be the final authority, we must act on that authority with dignity and respect for "the governed"...I always, always tell my daughter why I make the choices I do. It doesn't mean they are up for negotiation, but she is able to see that I am not a tyrant just wanting things a certain way because I have the power, but because there is a good and meaningful reason.
I don't agree with spanking, or hitting or popping because--I think--it gives the child a reason to be mad at you. And if they are mad at you, then they aren't thinking about the point you are trying to make. They are now, in their thinking, justified at being angry back at you. I think that sets up a manner of thinking that is opposed to what my goal is...and that is to understand the difference between right and wrong...and WHY they are right and wrong.
I am not only looking for behavior changes. I am looking for growth of her whole being.
I don't want my child to do the right things because she is afraid...I want her to do the right things because they are right...Motivation is at the core of the quality of our society. We can have people doing the right things because someone is looking...or they can do the right things because they are right...no matter who is looking. I want the right choices to come from her heart, and not from a concern that someone might hold some consequence over her head.
I think that can breed an empty life, and I know so many children who do the "right" things only when they think there will be a consequence.
I want to nurture a happy, healthy, loving heart, and I don't think you can get that by physical shock.
And a final thought on it, if an adult does anything physical to another adult, that can be considered a crime. When an adult does the equivalent to a child, that is discipline. There is a disconnect there for me, that I just can't get past.