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what do i say?

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my grandma died thursday night, she lives in ny im here in florida, my parents are there with my grandpa us 4 grandchildren couldnt go we have kids our selves and we cant afford to go its horrible, now my mom called me and said grandpas really doing bad he wants to die him and my grandma been married for 61 years. mom says i must call him but what do i say?? im trying to be strong but im so sad i just dont wana say the wrong thing can anyone tell me what can i say to him??
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hun u r a great person so i kno u will say the right thing..just be understanding loving and urself..i kno u wnt dissapoint...big hugs hun
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thanks sweety oxox
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sorry about your grandma:(
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Im sorry for your loss, and I know it can be difficult to talk to your Grandpa but just call and Im sure the words will just come to you.
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i just hope i can contain my self i just dont want silence on the phone plus i know if he breaks down i'll lose it but i must call him soon, thanks for thoes who replyed ox
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i am so sorry for your loss :(

i too, never know what to say in situations like that. just say what comes from your heart.

good luck sweetie.
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Maybe you can tell your grandpa that you love him and that you're proud of him and let him know that he's the link to you and all the others in your family and that you'll support each other even if it's long distance. Won't be easy to talk but maybe you could try positive stuff like that.
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just tell him you love him.
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i called it was horriblely sad he wants to die and be with her he said theres no reason to you i said yes there is you live for grandma and your grandchildren and great grandchildren then i told him i wished i could be there and i love him very much he said i love you to my first. i was his first grandchild god i cried but i hope i helped him a bit. thankyou all for all your replys big hugsssssssssss xooxoxxo
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The same thing happened to me. My grandparents were married 56 years when she passed. It took a while for my Grandpa to get past the stage of wanting to die as well. Just tell him that he still has all of you here who love and support him. I know it's hard but maybe make it a point to call every few days. That way he can know that there still are people here on Earth that love and think about him.
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ohhhhhhhhnoooooooooo (((hugs)))just let him know you are there for him
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Just say whats in your heart, my boyfriend lost his dad this year and he has said that just making the effort to talk means alot. I'm sure your grandpa would love to hear from you, just to know you are thinking of him and missing your grandma too.
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