dont give up!! i dunno why your son wont talk to you, but dont lose hope...maybe hes just goin through something as well. we're here for u =)

hang on in there oblivion is`nt all its cracked up to be. believe me I`ve tried it there

Does your son suffer from depression? Maybe he is just shutting himself off from you? I just know that oblivion is not going to help you spark the conversation with him. I hope things get better for you.

It's alway darkest before the dawn, sounds like your son may have some depression, don't give up on him, one day he is going to need you.
Oblivion, sounds good, yeah, right, if only, that's realy going to help your son, how do you think that's going to affect him? It sure as hell ain't going to make him feel any better.
We all have to hit rock bottom before we can start the long climb back up again, that's the hardest part but you CAN do it, sure you will slip back a few times but that will only make you more determined to try again, remember your not alone, at least your talking to folk on here and that's a big step, keep talking while there's dialog there is always hope my friend.
hang in there.

My son is 24. He is going through a lot of anger about
growing up with a depressed
mother, and unavailable father.
I can listen. I can apologize.
I can not go back and do it over. It is hard. My son is all the family I have, so I understand your loneliness.
Well, I have siblings, but they want nothing to do with me. Do not give up. We never know what might be right around the corner. Hang on.
Talk, write, keep in touch with others on DS. Hope I helped. If not, just ignore my blabbering. LOL

I think the comments so far have been good. I think they are right to say don't give up. I fell out with my daughter at about the same age, I think it must be something to do with them looking back and blaming the parent and their mistakes for what is wrong in their life now. As they get older they realise no one is perfect, we did our best and to forgive. I wrote her a long letter at the time trying to explain how I was feeling and to understand how she mite be hurting and my hopes for our future. After time things improved and we have a much better relationship now. I didn't force it and in time we made our peace. I think sons need their fathers, tell him you are there for him when he is ready to talk to you, leave a channel open. I wish you all the best.

Hi WillT,

I'm sorry that you are going through this with your son; don't give up! He will need you, just be there for him when he does. You seem like you have been a good father, so he will come around. As a child of parents who gave up on her at a very early age, I just don't see u as the type to give up! Hope this helps a little.

if you don't depend on family, they can't hurt you. please try to get your mind on new things for awhile, there is so much in life for you to enjoy.your reaction to them is appropriate for their behaviour..I had to detach myself, long story made short, i was being too sensitive. i had to seek what i needed elsewhere. your son has an anger problem that is too deep for you to unravel by yourself.please try to use diversion for now, he needs counseling. i hope you are taking a good antidepressant, if you have been on one for more than 6wks, you need to try another. then and only then will you see things with more clarity!1 LOL11

don't give up. my dad and i fought like crazy and at one point he disowned me (cause mom took him to court for my college money that he had spent on a boat) and eventually even i calmed down and called him. we were actually on much better terms before he died 6 yrs ago and it was nice to forgive him and know he was still there. long long story there but just know that you will always be his dad and if you keep trying someday he will come around at least a little.