You are absolutely right. You cannot make anyone feel better...but you CAN make a difference.

And the best way to do that, is to take care of yourself and do all you can to make yourself better.

Lead by example.

When people see you are getting better, you are finding ways to get through your troubles, they are most likely to follow suit and do likewise.

THAT is how you help people --- don't hand them a fish, teach them how to catch a fish, and they can feed themselves for a lifetime!

I feel the same way sometimes. And then I remember that I am not that important here. And each one of us is in their own process of their lives....and just being here is usually good enough. I trust God...and there is a much bigger picture working in our lives...So I get some peace in knowing that...

I just read your entry and I am the same way. I also had 2 girls, and lost a long time job (3 years ago). I just adopted my 8 yr old grandaughter. I cry whenever something bad happens to anyone.

I know the feeling. I hate it when I get overwhelmed and feel I've missed someone's journal or post and I might have helped. It's hard to come to terms with the fact we can't be there for everyone, can't help everyone, can't even know everyone here.

And, yes, sometimes I just can't read a whole journal or post because it hurts too much.