Depression Support Group
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I AM SUFFERING ON A DAILY BASIS SINCE THE LOSS OF MY GRANDSON (CUSTODY)
HAVE NOT SEEN HIM IN OVER 6 MONTHS NOW.
MANY OF YOU HAVE READ MY JOURNAL AND OFFERED SUPPORT. I THANK YOU,FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART.
NOTHING FILLS THE VOID THAT HE HAS LEFT IN MY LIFE. I AM NOT FEELING ANY JOY AND LOSING HOPE.
THE PAIN RUNS DEEP INTO MY SOUL.
I HAVE TRIED I.O.P., THERAPY, MANY MED'S,BUT NOTHING WORKS.
WILL I EVER RECOVER? OR AM I DOOMED TO JUST GRIEVE FOREVER?
IT WAS A MESSY DIVORCE, AND THE CHILD WAS WITH ME FOR 3 YEARS,NOW HE IS JUST GONE TO ANOTHER STATE WITH HIS MOTHER, THE JUDGE ALLOWED IT.
I NEED A NEW LAYWER AND I HAVE LOOKED INTO GRANDPARENTS RIGHTS, IT ALL SEEMS SO OVERWHELMING AND EXPENSIVE.
I HAVE SENT GIFTS AND CARDS WITH NO RESPONSE.
PLEASE I NEED TO KNOW THAT THERE IS HOPE!!
OUR NEXT VISITATION IS IN JUNE 2008!!! ( WE WERE TO HAVE HIM AT CHRISTMAS BUT SHE IS DEFAULTING ON THE PARENTING AGREEMANT AND WE CAN'T AFFORD TO FIGHT IT)
SHE WILL PROBABLY TRY TO DO THE SAME IN JUNE, BUT BY THEN HOPEFULLY WE WILL HAVE PROTECTED OURSELVES...JUST NO TIME BEFORE CHRISTMAS THIS YEAR, SHE PULLED A FAST ONE.
MY MAIN ISSUE IS I CAN'T SEEM TO NOT WORRY, OR THINK, OR DREAM ABOUT HIM CONSTANTLY...
HELP ME PLZ!!
HAVE NOT SEEN HIM IN OVER 6 MONTHS NOW.
MANY OF YOU HAVE READ MY JOURNAL AND OFFERED SUPPORT. I THANK YOU,FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART.
NOTHING FILLS THE VOID THAT HE HAS LEFT IN MY LIFE. I AM NOT FEELING ANY JOY AND LOSING HOPE.
THE PAIN RUNS DEEP INTO MY SOUL.
I HAVE TRIED I.O.P., THERAPY, MANY MED'S,BUT NOTHING WORKS.
WILL I EVER RECOVER? OR AM I DOOMED TO JUST GRIEVE FOREVER?
IT WAS A MESSY DIVORCE, AND THE CHILD WAS WITH ME FOR 3 YEARS,NOW HE IS JUST GONE TO ANOTHER STATE WITH HIS MOTHER, THE JUDGE ALLOWED IT.
I NEED A NEW LAYWER AND I HAVE LOOKED INTO GRANDPARENTS RIGHTS, IT ALL SEEMS SO OVERWHELMING AND EXPENSIVE.
I HAVE SENT GIFTS AND CARDS WITH NO RESPONSE.
PLEASE I NEED TO KNOW THAT THERE IS HOPE!!
OUR NEXT VISITATION IS IN JUNE 2008!!! ( WE WERE TO HAVE HIM AT CHRISTMAS BUT SHE IS DEFAULTING ON THE PARENTING AGREEMANT AND WE CAN'T AFFORD TO FIGHT IT)
SHE WILL PROBABLY TRY TO DO THE SAME IN JUNE, BUT BY THEN HOPEFULLY WE WILL HAVE PROTECTED OURSELVES...JUST NO TIME BEFORE CHRISTMAS THIS YEAR, SHE PULLED A FAST ONE.
MY MAIN ISSUE IS I CAN'T SEEM TO NOT WORRY, OR THINK, OR DREAM ABOUT HIM CONSTANTLY...
HELP ME PLZ!!
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Have hope because people soften with time. Dont lose faith and remember this isnt your fault.
You never know what the future holds and he could need you again, I hope and pray that you will see him soon and on your part, all you can do for him now is be there waiting for him.
I'm so sorry you're suffering it must be hard.x
There is no time limit on your grieving. No rule that says "okay, you've had this amount of time, now you have to stop."
However, maybe your grandson needs some adjustment time to living with his mommie. Do you get to call him? Can you talk to him online, maybe with a computer camera? Za's father lives in Iraq and they visit by computer cam all the time. Or, invest in a good long distance plan, or cell phone with free calling on weekends.
Kids love everyone, they kinda take people as they come. And, feeling guilty about loving one more than the other or both is just unfair. They don't care about your mistakes, or the past, they just want everyone to be happy. And, they should not be made to take sides.
Perhaps you can talk to the mother, treat her as an equal, apoligize for any misconceptions on your part..(yeah, she may be at fault, but that is not the point,) you are trying to convey to her, that you are willing to put the childs best interest in front of adult pride.
Who knows, maybe grandma Santa could buy the grandson a computer camera for christmas?
Kids love mail, send him a card..whatever. Let her know you want to be a team player in helping to raise your grandson.......if that don't work, well, kick her ass..(lol) I am joking about the ass kick, but it's time to put difference aside and love your grandson.
I have been doing this for 13 years and it never goes away but you eventually get numb. My girls were taken away by their Law-enforcement father becaseu he is a Fed. Cop and the courts let him have the kids even though the evaluations said he would use them to control me. He has, I have not seen my own children in over a year because he is in contempt and the judge keeps saying every time we go in for an order to show cause that he needs to comply but he never does. THey would throw anyone else in jail but not a gold old Federal law enforcement officer.
Pray and act and think in Love and god will grant miracles.
Think of the love in your heart for your grandson and try not to focus on the pain.
Im here for you.